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  • FarraigePlaisteach@lemmy.world
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    It’s nice to hear some witty and lighthearted ones because we do have a problem with that kind of thing straying into the territory of abuse and bullying.

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      The line between banter and bullying can be pretty simple: does the target find it funny, and can you take back what you dish out?

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        Yeah, but you never know how the targez takes it, so there is a risk. Personal I think a bit of banter is good for the mood, but you have to make it 1000% clear that you are making light hearted fun. Which isn’t always easy.

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    These are hilarious, but I don’t think I’d survive in a country where the national sport is trolling.

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      My family is like this. All we do is make fun of each other. It’s kept mostly internal (including close family friends) but that’s how we show love.

      I still dress like a ranch hand about a quarter of the time even though I’m only out there to lend a hand once in a while. I showed up at my parent’s place while my siblings were in town while I was wearing my boots and a pearl snap shirt. In our group chat my dad still asks “Hey Cowboy, did ya yee any haws today?” and that’s been over a year.

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        My family is like this. All we do is make fun of each other. It’s kept mostly internal (including close family friends) but that’s how we show love.

        Oof, my mom is like this. My entire childhood was: bullying at school, bullying on the playground, then coming home to mom making jokes at my expense while telling me to “learn to laugh at myself” when I got upset because her words sounded exactly like what bullies would say.

        It’s one thing to poke fun at friends and peers who share your humor, but I hope adults recognize that kids are still developing their senses of self, and stuff like this can fuck them (and their relationships with their parents) up for life.

    • spookex@lemmy.world
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      14 hours ago

      At the same time, that’s one of the easiest ones to throw a funny response back

      • BastingChemina@slrpnk.net
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        Played well, this could be a free pass for all the other times the person is late.

        Next time they are late they can put on the silver jacket, enter the classroom with a space related excuse:

        • Sorry, the traffic was awful on the asteroid belt
        • My comet was delayed
        • A gravitational anomaly threw me out of the solar system, it took me forever to come back
    • fibojoly@sh.itjust.works
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      Sounds about right. If there is one thing that’ll get you taken the piss out of, it’s trying to think you’re special. Dear gods you can’t live in Ireland without a thick skin or a sense of banter. I do miss it dearly.

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      Tall poppies is about criticising people who are boastful and self-aggrandising, not mocking people for wearing clothes they like.

      (Your link doesn’t load for me so I don’t know if it directly contradicts me, my statement is based on my local understanding with confirmation from Wikipedia)

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        I think it could be argued that wearing ostentatious and expensive clothes is a type of self-aggrandisement. Wear something flashy into any local pub in country NSW and you’d get the exact same reaction as above.

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        I’d say it’s a different set of values but maybe that’s just my cultural perspective.

        Tall Poppy is more about egalitarianism and modesty, where standing out or flaunting status too much is discouraged.

        Whereas crab bucket is seen as being rooted in envy, jealousy, or a fear of losing status or position.

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          So in other words Tall Poppy is just Crab Bucket that can’t admit to themselves what they are doing.

          “We want you to stay down in the bucket with us for egalitarianism!”

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            Yeah, wearing something nice to the local pub is not, in its self, self aggrandization. Wearing the things you like, is just that, wearing things you like. Now, if you make it a point show-off that you are wearing designer brands, talk about not wanting to look poor, making remarks, like these poppy cutters, to people for having a more budget conscious wardrobe, etc. then you are self aggrandizing.

            If you are simply wearing nice clothes to day-to-day stuff, and otherwise acting normally, you are just wearing things that make you happy. The people who are “cutting the tall poppies” are just doing to you, what fashion snobs would do to them. They even have similarly lame excuses “What? I am just pointing out what people could be doing to look better, which makes people treat you better, and makes you happier” vs “What? I am just pointing out that this person is being a pompous ass, which makes people think worse of them, and that they could fit in better, which will make people treat them better”.

            • JacksonLamb@lemmy.world
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              Exactly.

              It’s also applied to creativity a lot. Tall poppy syndrome can take the form of shitting on anyone who wants to do something different.

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    i dont get the chilli one

    edit: thanks everyone for explaining! not sure how i couldnt get chili con carne 😂

    • OneOrTheOtherDontAskMe@lemmy.world
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      24 hours ago

      Chili con Carne is a way I’ve heard in ‘tex-mex’ (Texas mexican American cuisine) that’s essentially Spanish for ‘Chili, with meat’

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      The dad’s name is Con Kearney which is similar to ‘con Carne’, as in ‘Chili con Carne’. I guess that dish is popular over there?

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        It’s like the one Mexican dish we know in Europe. You can order nachos or tacos at some places but they’re so far removed from the real deal it’s a crime to call it Mexican.

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          Yup. I live in the US and most “Mexican” food here is terrible. I’ve gotten to the point where I refuse to eat Mexican unless it’s in an establishment with soccer playing 24/7, mysterious jugs of liquid on the counter, and counter staff who struggle with English. Bonus points for dingy lighting. If I can’t order lengua or they don’t ask for clarification when i order cabesa, I’m out.

          And even then it’s a toss up. Some great Mexican places give in and start adding American nonsense to their dishes. I want a variety of moles, fantastic beans, and salsas so hot the devil himself would get hiccups and I’m sold.

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    Twitter screenshots and a tumblr user celebrating that people get made fun of for trying to be a little fashionable. This kinda sucks …

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      Don’t ever be around Irish people, dude. With that attitude you’ll have a bad time.

      It’s almost always done in a friendly way. The Irish just can’t stand someone putting on airs and will take them down a peg for any reason presented but it’s rarely malicious.

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        Yeah all of those are definitely ones to be laughed along with, not stabs. I’ve been the recipient of a few bangers like that in my time and honestly really enjoy them.

        I’d say the spaceship one in front of a crowded room of students stung a bit though even if the recipient was able to laugh along.

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        If I went to Ireland and they started giving me trash about my style, I would not know how to respond, but I’m sure I’d be laughing the entire time lmao

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          I too have them, believe me. I‘m working on it. The crazy thing is: nothing ever happens. If someone calls out my balding hair, literally nothing happens. No laugh track, no bill, no meteorite. Just hit back or ignore it if they want to be mean.

      • rumschlumpel@feddit.org
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        I used to be really into mutual ribbing-based humor. What I learned was that it’s pretty fun, until you misjudge the situation. IMO it’s not worth it overall.

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          Saying sorry and meaning it, and never repeating what you did gets you out of that sorta situations gracefully.

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              I was taught as kid that what I have to is to say (and be) sorry. What the other person does is not my responsibility. Some people can’t take apology and there’s not much you can or should do about it

        • panzermuffin@lemmy.world
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          Then just talk about it. Set boundaries. My friends and I are relentless but have topics and boundaries which are taboo. Just grow together.

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            Do you think the people in these twitter screenshots all talked about boundaries before talking shit about people they don’t know?

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              Keep clutching your pearls. Or just let it be a little dumb but altogether funny experience from some irish blokes.

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              I mean it’s Ireland, the boundaries are the borders of the country. If you live there and you dislike banter it’s on you.