• friendlymessage@feddit.org
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    4 months ago

    First of all, sorry this happened to you and thank you for your perspective on this.

    There’s a lot of possible middle ways between 13 months and life’s over, though. I’m a strong believer in rehabilitation but there are some necessities, e.g. a sufficient level of remorse which he has not shown as far as I can tell, and basically zero chance of repetition, which to be fair seemingly is the case.

    There are some things in my opinion that you should never be able to do as a convicted child rapist even after rehabilitation which includes being a primary care taker of children and representing your country at the Olympics.

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      4 months ago

      Thank you for pointing this out. As another who believes in rehabilitation, this whole situation made me really uncomfortable. I never wanted to defend the asshole, I just hate the way we view criminals on a large scale.

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      3 months ago

      e.g. a sufficient level of remorse which he has not shown as far as I can tell, and basically zero chance of repetition, which to be fair seemingly is the case.

      It literally is the case: https://time.com/7004041/convicted-rapist-competing-olympics-steven-van-de-velde/

      But most people basically want the return of the death sentence without directly killing someone, they just want to take their living and put them under a bridge.

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        3 months ago

        Is that remorse here in the room with us?

        Just to make clear what I mean:

        he said it’s the biggest mistake of his life - I sure fucking hope so. This is an empty statement, of course it is.

        and he has to bear the consequences - that’s what grinds my gears. No, he doesn’t bear the consequences, his victim does. I would like for him just once to acknowledge that there is an actual victim here and it’s not him. He destroyed her life. Even that carefully crafted PR statement you posted here only ominously mentioned “those involved”. He doesn’t mention her, his organization doesn’t mention her. He calls it a misstep and a mistake, he doesn’t call it what it is, child rape.

        If he were truly reformed, he would acknowledge what kind of pain his continuous presence in the public eye inflicts on his victim and others like her and would actually bear the consequences - step down on his own.