• Zenith@lemm.ee
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    1 month ago

    Dating apps are social cancer

    Make friends with women, jumping straight to “romance” with zero friendship is like running a relationship on insane difficulty

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      1 month ago

      I don’t agree with this. They are a stream-lined method to meet other people who are interested in making new contacts without going out of their comfort zone. I also may be biased since I met my s/o on Bumble but we are 6 years in and this is the healthiest most loving relationship I’ve ever been in. I know my experience is most likely the exception rather than the norm YMMV

      Also I don’t know how going on a few dates with someone is “jumping right to romance”

    • uniquethrowagay@feddit.org
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      1 month ago

      Dating apps are quite horrible, but I would have never met my girlfriend without them. We are both very shy and agree that even if we had met by chance, nobody would have ever made a move.

      None of my women friends are romantically interesting to me and I’m not the kind of person who meets a lot of new people. I’m very happy with my small circle of friends and neither my job nor my hobbies expose me to new people.

      A dating app helped me to work around that. I was very lucky though and the first person I met with turned out to be the perfect match for me.

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      1 month ago

      Women also use dating apps for their own reasons, too. While its true there are a lot of socially inept men on them, I’m uncomfortable with your phrasing. It seems to be blaming men (and not women) for the apps’ existence.

      Dating apps are mostly a reflection of a society with poor options for socialising organically. They’re trying to get people connected in a world that makes organic making places increasingly expensive or rare, or work hours that are particularly long and limit our energy and free time.