I work remotely and one of my favourite things is how people message to ask if you’re free for a call.
Why are people afraid of calls these days?
I wouldn’t say we’re afraid. I don’t particularly like speaking on the phone though, but it’s alright, I even worked call center for a while so it doesn’t bother me much these days.
Anyways, essentially texting is just more efficient. I can’t speak for everyone else, but for instance at work, I hate it when I have a question or need assistance on a specific topic, ask on my team chat and have a couple of people saying “quick call?”.
If it’s something really complex, fine… that’s fair. Other than that? It’s just so inefficient. I can be working on something else and just reply during my off time between tasks, same with whoever I ask help from. Also, most of the time I’m listening to music, or I have my TV with ambience sound on the background. So then I have to turn everything off just so I can go for a 5minute call for something that could be done over chat on the same amount of time.
Sorry this comment turned out way longer than I thought it would.
So asynchronous communication can be more efficient for certain types of communication, but in other scenarios synchronous communication will be more efficient. Learning to identify which type of communication fits which type of mode is a valuable skill to have, one I recommend that everyone develops.
Because anything not important can be sent through a text. Most people call because it’s something important or a big deal and at a lot of the times it’s not a good call. So that’s why people don’t like phone calls because the thing that’s on the other end is most likely non-desirable.
I find that it’s generally more helpful to practice grabbing the metaphorical bull by the horns. The more you avoid it, the less used you are to dealing with it, and the worse it makes you feel.
It’s easier to weigh the relative importance and time sensitivity of the incoming message against the importance of what you’re doing via text rather than a call.
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My family and my girlfriend are basically the only people allowed to do this. Everyone else - if you’re calling me directly I will assume it’s an emergency and will get annoyed if it’s not.
Calls are fine. Unscheduled calls are not. Text me to set up a time to call that works for both. I am okay with giving you my undivided attention - just not necessarily right now.
Ok princess.
What I did to cut that out was to moan and answer like they just woke me up. Talk very slowly, take three seconds of “uuuuhhhhh” to answer every question and be as useless as possible. It isn’t long before they hang up and send me the text they should have sent in the first place.
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Because I hate typing on mobile devices I don’t like texting.
If you try to have a conversation with me over text Imma either call you if it’s important or start giving you one word answers to everything.
Thankfully most people know better than to try and communicate with me in general!
Ok
Thing is that you can have a chat protocol and be asynchronous in communicating with text messages. That’s something you can’t have with voice calls.
Ohh, I’m fully aware.
I love messaging even I have a physical keyboard infront of me.
It’s specifically the mobile keyboards I hate.
Text to call. I also really like calls, but scheduled. Calling randomly to chat means you’re taking my undivided attention for however long you want whenever you want and that’s super disrespectful of my time
Then don’t answer?
It’s not like sending the call to voicemail is going to hurt my feelings.
Asking to call seems redundant. The call is the ask.
Are you able to use voice type?
Just use predictive text and select whatever the most unhinged option that communicates your point. Only exception is that I draw the line are the constant attempts that thing tires to flirt with my mum. Seriously, the amount of 💘 😘 it suggests is concerning. I’m not American.
I just don’t answer the phone at all if they can’t bother to text (unless it’s someone important to me).
I already blocked the number of my internet provider because they keep calling me for an appointment I had called off via email weeks ago by now.
I need an AI phone agent to whine at CSRs more nicely than I am capable of doing any longer.
That is what I need.
Not everyone is able to text. Not everyone has access to or can afford a smart phone. Refusing to take a voice call is a clear sign of social ineptitude, imo - if you really can’t be bothered to do that I shudder to think of what you must be like in face-to-face interactions. Toughen up.
…you okay?
There’s a certain level of irony of a message like theirs in the comments of a meme post
I shudder to think of what they must be like in face-to-face interactions
My mom says I’m cool.
Yeah, pretty good. You?
Voice calls don’t have the same costs for everyone. I’ve worked in tech support, taking calls all day, and that shit wore on me. Dealing with text is just lower cost, at least for me. Pretty ableist to just declare one medium the one true medium, all others are a sign of ineptitude.
Might be worth noting, also, that an earlier generation said the same goddamn thing about phone calls, as compared to F2F interactions.
Somehow, the tune always changes, but the dance steps remain the same.
Yep, I worked five years of Internet tech support - I still do not like taking one-on-one calls with people. I’m usually fine with being in a group call generally, because the focus isn’t on me to drive the whole thing forward all the time, along with a few other reasons.
Not to mention, it’s not even just on a physiological level either - it wasn’t really all that long ago where I was on a pay-as-you-go phone plan where phone calls absolutely would add up if I spoke with everyone over the phone instead of text (which no one in my circle uses regular SMS so texting basically didn’t cost me anything).
I’ve worked on the phone too and it wore on me too. But I guess I just don’t think of calls with friends or family as being on the same level as calls with customers?
Phone calls are so much worse than face to face conversations. The absolute worst is having to make an important phone call. That ruins my entire day.
it has a big red button that says “don’t speak to me” though
if I had to speak to them it wouldn’t have that button
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