• Fosheze@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    So this doctor is a complete douchbag and should not be practicing medicine. But he’s also not entirely wrong. Medically speaking what your gender is is irrelevant most of the time. Of course it applies to any procedures you may be undergoing or medications you may be taking to alter your body to match your gender but that’s about it. Any competent doctor will of course respect your gender identity because understanding and having a good relationship with the patient is important. But medically speaking they care more about whether you are at risk for prostate cancer or uterine cysts and your biological sex (alongside your medical history) is a much better indicator of that (outside of relatively rare exceptions). If you are a trans woman who has had bottom surgery then not every gyno is going to have the skillset to help you because that just isn’t what many of them are trained for. I’ve definitely had my doctor tell me I need to see someone else for certain issues because they just didn’t have the skillset to help. Of course there are far better ways to say that than how this “doctor” chose to do so, but him not providing care that he wasn’t trained to provide isn’t the issue here. His douchbag attitude and him not providing a referal to a doctor who could help is the issue.

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      1 year ago

      Agreed with everything you said except that, according to the article, he initially did offer a referral to another doctor. It was only after she got angry that the discourse escalated and he said offensive things in response.

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        Ah. I must have missed that. In that case it’s a little more understandable. He just got pissed off and snapped. Even so you need to be a little more thick skinned than that if you want to be a doctor. I don’t know all of the details of course but he still shouldn’t have sunk to insults.

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          […] you need to be a little more thick skinned than that if you want to be a doctor.

          Why?

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            I understand doctors are humans too, and presume that is your reason for questioning “Why?”.

            But in defense of doctors being more “thick skinned”, I think patients are generally the more vulnerable side as they are usually the ones with issues. If every doctor they come to snaps at them, they start to lose trust in healthcare providers.

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              It’s not wrong what you are saying, but it’s unrealistic. Being “thick skinned” is almost always useful and almost never required. There’s not enough doctors already, and only so many “thick skinned” people. Becoming a medical doctor already requires a set of skills, that only a subset of humans have; adding being “thick skinned” as a requirement is simply naive.

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            I think they’re simply both assholes here.

            The trans person who flipped out and verbally abused the doctor/receptionist for referring them elsewhere when the doctor is specifically a women’s reproductive health doctor and the trans woman has no female reproductive system is an asshole.

            The doctor who responded to this by going online and calling her a “man who shaved his beard” is also an asshole.

            They can both be true.

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          nah, that’s a bullshit excuse. I’ve been furious enough to wreak physical violence, and even in that state I haven’t gone to a bigoted well.