I’m definitely on the younger end for a mother of a 12 year old since I had him extremely early, so I feel like I’d be less embarrassing than other moms.

I kinda don’t really understand this angle.

If you’re 12, I would’ve thought that if your mum is 30 or 60 they’re still an “embarrassing” parent.

Your kid wanting their own space with their friends isn’t a reflection on your relationship with them, it’s just their own growth.

Based on what little information we have, my guess would be that at some point your son has been to someone else’s house and their mother stayed in her room and they talked about how cool that was.

I think the only answer here is to explain that you were looking forward to meeting his friends, but you’ll do your best to give them some space, but you’re not going to be confined to your room.

I think your expectations are wrong. Perhaps at 8 you still might tolerate your mom hovering around but at 12? It’s part of puberty to grow apart from your parents, it’s just biology. You can be glad he is comfortable even bringing his friends to your home so you can meet them and talk to them at least a little bit.

The only a bit weird thing is that they get the whole house/apartment and you’re confined to your room. I’m not sure about your living situation but it should be the other way around, they should be in his room.

Your probably The Milf and he’s embarrassed. Set them some boundaries and do your own thing, you’ll be cool without even trying

You stayed in your room? No. He can stay in his room with his friends, or go outside and play. The house is yours, you make the rules, not him.

Kids need boundaries, and you need to set them. They crave direction, structure, and stability to push against and feel secure when it holds.