• ABCDE@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    0
    ·
    1 year ago

    “it’s not” shows that the person has already made their mind up and done their reading, so I’m not particularly bothered about engaging people like this as they are not actually interested and are just trying to derail in bad faith.

    • intensely_human@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      0
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      1 year ago

      “It’s not” shows that the person has already made up their mind

      It shows that they currently disagree with you.

      are just trying to derail

      Well yeah, a genuine conversation can go anywhere, unlike something on rails which is bound for a single destination. IMO someone who thinks a conversation should behave like a train and follow a predetermined path is missing out on what conversations actually are.

      Another way to say “trying to derail” could be “trying to make it go a different direction”.

      That’s conflict. That’s when two people have different ideas. Just because they use sarcasm or rhetorical questions doesn’t mean they’re bad actors. Just because they’re mocking your point of view doesn’t mean they’re bad actors.