• djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 day ago

    I’m just gonna put this anecdote out there:

    When I first started dating my ex, I wanted him to play through some Dark Souls to see if he had any determination. He failed completely and whined a lot, but I kept dating him anyway. Nearly 5 years later, I ended up leaving him, and a big part of it was his defeatist outlook and complete lack of willpower.

    I’m not saying being bad at Dark Souls is a red flag, but I think girlie would be justified in getting out now.

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      1 day ago

      I’ve 100%'d all 3 souls games.

      Can we date (As an experiment)? I suspect dating someone with the obsessive qualities to do this is also frustrating.

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        I’ve only 100%'d DS1, so I’m pretty impressed by your ability. I’m not obsessive enough over most of the franchise to get 100%, namely because there’s sections of DS2 and DS3 I don’t love replaying, but I love DS1 to death so I wanted to have the Dark Soul achievement.

        Anyway, if you wanna shoot your shot dm me, just know you gotta be cool with bussy.

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        Y’know it was another one of his failings, not really? He was very big on railing me, but not super big on lubing me up properly with his fingers first.

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          Sounds like a selfish dick, glad you kicked him to the curb.

          Though 5 years? That’s a long time to put up with that nonsense, you must have a very strong sense of loyalty.

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      But here’s the thing - I didn’t enjoy dark souls when I tried, but I do enjoy other games that are very difficult for me and where I need to be determined to win

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        That’s fair, and that’s why I stayed with him for 5 years after watching him ragequit after losing 15 times to Asylum Demon. I was hopeful that it was just him bouncing off the game, and I also assumed he’d have other moments where he could show me what he was worth under stress. He never did, and eventually I became fully responsible for the both of us.

        Like I said, being bad at DS isn’t a red flag. Having no determination and constantly giving up at the first sign of adversity is a red flag. There’s a very faint correlation between the two, but that’s all.

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      It’s probably more seeing how he reacts when frustrated that’s the red flag.

      If he kept his composure until he eventually stopped playing and said “I don’t think this is my type of game”, that would have been a more mature approach to the issue than whining.

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          He did the most important dodge of all, dodging the gf playing weird games with their relationship. What a nutcase lol

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              I’ve never played the souls games for the same reason I generally don’t play horror games, I just don’t think I’d enjoy it so I just watch people play games like that on twitch.

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            Wow, way to assume. You also missed the point, I didn’t play any weird games with him and regret it, because it would’ve ended a bad relationship much sooner.

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      Hmm, I rage quit when the game crashed right as I was about to accomplish something I had been failing at for hours, and I haven’t touched the game since. I have finished similarly difficult games though.

      Am I salvageable?

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        Were you playing Remastered or Prepare to Die? If it was the OG Prepare to Die release…yeah that thing is a buggy mess and you’d probably have further frustrations with it later on. Remastered doesn’t crash very often though, and the game is pretty good about saving progress, you could’ve hopped back on!

        You also probably didn’t have a cute boy cheering you on and trying to motivate you to improve either, which I really think would improve the experience of failing to kill Asylum Demon, but I don’t think my ex agreed.

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          I think it was Prepare to Die on XBox 360. My XBox also had trouble reading disks, so it could also be the disk drive.

          I have since purchased on PC and will give it another shot at some point, I think my anger has subsided over the past 10 years.

          And not sure a cute boy would help, I’m more into women 😜

          But either my SO or one of my kids cheering me on would certainly help. I did crush the Asylum Demon, I rage quit somewhere on the tower. I’ve since played several difficult-ish games (Ys series esp Ys1 and Ys Origin, Furi, Titan Souls), I just haven’t gotten back to DS.