• SickPanda@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    My theory that a rising number of men end up being Incels is that it’s getting harder and harder for young men to make any experience with women at all.

    Online and offline dating became toxic af which leads to frustration. This frustration opens the door for people like Andrew Tate.

    The article from OP says the most misogynistic men are ironically the ones which get laid the most. I’d put Andrew Tate into this category.

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      1 year ago

      Why do you suppose dating is worse now? I will disagree any time and place with people who say online dating is awful. The alternative – randomly hitting on people and hoping a million unknowable factors all line up – is far worse.

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        It’s been my experience that meeting people in person works and online dating just doesn’t. I’m not saying all the female profiles on dating sites are fakes generated by the site to tempt men into subscribing, but I definitely am saying that if they were, my experience wouldn’t have been different.

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        Why do you suppose dating is worse now?

        Globalization and social media

        Just read the articles on Tinder, it’s a sad affair for the not attractive man

        When all men you had access to where the village boys you won’t be that picky. Once the whole world can sext you, why settle for the ok dude that looks nice in a suit if you squint enough?

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          It goes both ways for “not attractive” women as well.

          This is purely anecdotal, but all of the “not attractive” men I have known who complain there’s no women online for them are only talking about women who are more attractive than them. The ones who don’t complain have realistic standards and can find matches. It also tends to help they don’t have s shit attitude.

          But it’s still a numbers game. More attractive people get more matches, but that doesn’t mean those are quality matches. I guess if all you’re looking for is casual sex it makes a difference.

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            It goes both ways for “not attractive” women as well

            It does not, unless you mean “grotesquely not attractive”? Just read the articles, women are ruthless when rating men, so even “average” men can’t get “average”, or less-than, women (online dating)

            But it’s still a numbers game

            You are underestimating the numbers by too much

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            1 year ago

            most online dating apps want you to engage in casual sex and not find success because then you’ll keep coming back. TInder, Bumble, etc. are first and foremost hookup apps and it’s important to remember that.