I think the best response that’s always worked for me is:
“Who cares!”
Person riled up about this inclined to agree with me because they think I’m on the two genders “side of the debate”.
“Just try your best to call people what they want to be called and move on. If someone’s name is x, try call them x, if they say ‘I am a y’, try calling them a y. If you get it wrong accidentally, oh well, just say sorry and try again. Why are we even still talking about this? It’s such a non-issue”
Highly effective on those who aren’t super conservative and just been swept up in the (in my opinion) astroturfed outrage.
My response is still the same. Because the more uncommon something is (i.e. not He/she/they) then it’s also reasonable to expect people to get it wrong a bunch. Also, I really feel pointing toward odd pronouns is such a stawman too, because it’s overwhelmingly people asking for he/she/they (male/female/neither).
If there is someone non-binary out there really getting mad at people who mis-gender them without being told first (again, never met anyone like this, ever), then I’d encourage them to practice some empathy and be realistic.
I’m betting there is practically no one out there seriously asking to be called master.
Though smeagol uses it for master. Master is nice to smeagol.
I really think this “debate” is such a waste of time. Just try to accommodate people if it’s easy.
And calling someone by the name they choose (and are often legally called), and the gender they identify with, is such low effort, and making mistakes is such a non-issue if your attitude is good.
What is the fuss all about. (I know the answer, I just think the answer is stupid)
I think the best response that’s always worked for me is:
“Who cares!” Person riled up about this inclined to agree with me because they think I’m on the two genders “side of the debate”. “Just try your best to call people what they want to be called and move on. If someone’s name is x, try call them x, if they say ‘I am a y’, try calling them a y. If you get it wrong accidentally, oh well, just say sorry and try again. Why are we even still talking about this? It’s such a non-issue”
Highly effective on those who aren’t super conservative and just been swept up in the (in my opinion) astroturfed outrage.
I’m a god. My pronoun is “Master”.
My response is still the same. Because the more uncommon something is (i.e. not He/she/they) then it’s also reasonable to expect people to get it wrong a bunch. Also, I really feel pointing toward odd pronouns is such a stawman too, because it’s overwhelmingly people asking for he/she/they (male/female/neither).
If there is someone non-binary out there really getting mad at people who mis-gender them without being told first (again, never met anyone like this, ever), then I’d encourage them to practice some empathy and be realistic.
I’m betting there is practically no one out there seriously asking to be called master.
Though smeagol uses it for master. Master is nice to smeagol.
I really think this “debate” is such a waste of time. Just try to accommodate people if it’s easy.
And calling someone by the name they choose (and are often legally called), and the gender they identify with, is such low effort, and making mistakes is such a non-issue if your attitude is good.
What is the fuss all about. (I know the answer, I just think the answer is stupid)
I’m not making any kind of point. I just want you to call me master.
We do not grant you the rank of Master
That’s why I like names, that’s why we have em. When I first meet you, tell me your name and that’s what I’ll call you. The rest we can learn as we go