hatred. just hatred and anger, fueled by seething rage that’s there in a split-second, whenever you need it. when your synapses overflow with visions of screaming mongol hordes burning and pillaging through the C-suite of whatever corpo that’s yanking your chain, the desire to gorge on crap you’re conditioned to consume just fades away.
that works for anything. smoking. eating meat. you ex you can’t stop thinking about. getting the new GPU. give it a burst of 30-45 seconds of white-hot fury and you don’t want none of that, ever again.
in the words of the wise denpok singh: “hate in the hands of the enlightened can be a tool for great change”.
as a direct product of enshittification, google and friends routinely undermine the open internet and make life difficult for people who selfhost, businesses and private parties alike.
so your emails not arriving in gmail’s inbox is because google wants you to use gmail and/or their business account, not plain email. there is no mechanism where you can mark a non-gmail correspondent as safe and someone you always want to receive comms from. except, if you offload your sending either to g&f or one of the 3rd-party senders like mailchimp, sendinblue, etc. who have a direct pipe into google’s infra and are not subject to any of those harassment tactics.
so, not having a .com domain is possibly less ideal, but that pales in comparison to the above; if you’re communicating with non-gmail/outllok/etc contacts, it don’t matter. if you do - again, it doesn’t matter.