this would probably just lead to the corporation taking more and more of a role until thet take over development of the FOSS projects they care about, which is a particular nightmare I would prefer to avoid

was upset enough when Microsoft bought Github

tortillas

you should x-post on !sewing@lemmy.world and other sewing communities!

China does not allow or recognize same-sex marriages, are jailing gay women for writing erotica online, trans people have to have bottom surgery before they are permitted to update official documents, trans women are forced to notify their family and prove they have no criminal record before being allowed access to HRT, and in 2022 China passed a law preventing buying estrogen or anti-androgens online even with a prescription.

This is all much worse than in the US where most states allow you to update your gender marker on official documents without surgery, HRT can be obtained on the basis of informed consent (and without requirements of disclosing to family or having no criminal record), and LGBT+ people are not being jailed for writing erotica …

The U.S. is indeed dangerous, and you are probably in greater danger of being a victim of stochastic violence in the U.S. than in China, but that is not the only thing that people look at when deciding if a country has better or worse laws, rights, or conditions for LGBT+ people.

I’m sorry, I meant my comment mostly in jest (and somewhat bewilderment), I didn’t mean to come across as rude 🤐

If your point is that Americans are in a stronger position to enter a foreign country and stay there by various means like getting sponsored by an employer or on a student visa, that seems clear enough - that’s true even if just on the basis that Americans tend to have more money, assets in US dollars, and potentially better opportunities to get sought-after education in the U.S. that would make them skilled laborers in other parts of the world.

My point was just to clarify that getting that legal basis of staying in the foreign country (which is the point of the asylum claim) is not trivial even if it is easier for Americans relative to other nationalities. There are trans people in detention camps in Europe because they declared asylum and are being prepared for deportation back to the U.S. - not everyone is a skilled laborer or eligible to be a student (let alone successful in pursuing those opportunities).

And most of the trans population does not have passports, let alone the financial means to leave the country. Fleeing the country is a solution for a privileged minority. Most of us can’t even leave the oppressive states we live in and move to more progressive states with laws that protect trans folks.

Also, the U.S. is still one of the best places in the world to be trans - we have better access to trans healthcare and rights than most of the rest of the world, and even the rest of the West. The situation is deteriorating (as it is in most of the rest of the world), but they did not even succeed in passing a trans athlete ban through Congress, let alone criminalization of being trans or revocation of care. Nothing like the laws that were on the books in the 1970s that outright banned “cross-dressing” have been passed or enforced.

> making false claims that Americans can go anywhere and stay

> thinking trans people would be seeking asylum in Russia

> account is new

you sure you’re not some kind of bot?

the American passport allows for easy initial entry, but doesn’t guarantee permanent residence, asylum cases are to permit people to stay legally in the country longer than the (short) initial period allowed for tourism …

this isn’t true, being American does not grant you indefinite legal right to live in other countries - you have to find some way to be sponsored and have a visa that gives you a legal basis

being able to visit a country for a short period of time as a tourist is not the same as being able to legally stay longer, get a job, secure housing, etc.

Canada is not accepting American LGBT+ folks’ asylum claims, there was a single case of a non-binary person who was not deported because they were a caretaker and because the US could be unsafe, and there is an American trans woman’s asylum claim that will be heard, but neither case establishes that American asylum claims will be accepted

as far as I know, no country is granting asylum to trans people fleeing America, and no the recent Supreme Court decision to allow Trump to enforce his policy while the court case is pending does not change that

whether other countries grant asylum is not necessarily the same as whether the US is actually unsafe enough for trans people to need to flee, though

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clyk3qzq7k7o

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/choking-strangulation-women-video-online-banned-b2857874.html

each article I’m reading doesn’t even say it’s criminalizing “non-consensual choking” - just all choking or strangulation in porn will be criminalized …

and they are warning that they will criminalize consensual choking in people’s sex lives:

Baroness Bertin cautioned that people acting out choking in their sex lives “may face devastating consequences”.

This is coming from a right-wing, sex-negative perspective, and criminalizing consensual choking in people’s personal sex lives or in porn seems like a clear wrong.

Non-consensual choking is already illegal, it should be mentioned.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bqloPw5wp48

^ this video is relevant

cannabis finally helped me grok the Kline bottle, took a lot of visualizing and mental exploration but I got there

edit: I wanted to pass along the insight I had that helped me, basically to not hold the whole Kline bottle in your mind at once, but to instead look at it from a subjective and temporalized perspective, for example imagine being an ant walking along the surface of the Kline bottle (or if you are an American, driving along the surface). Parsing individual moments on the surface is what helped me inch along and traverse the whole thing, and that spatial intuition helped me finally understand the whole much better … 4-dimensional objects can be really hard to reason about.

Having watched the video I suspect they’re just mentioning it because it’s descriptively accurate, he stumbles and behaves in a way that shows visible drunkenness. Journalists are trained to report facts and try to remain objective. The description might also help with accessibility concerns by providing a written description of an event caught on video. Regardless of the reason, I don’t think the description is meant to be dismissive.

Of course you’re right that alcohol is commonly used as a way to excuse sexual assault, but this article if anything has the opposite aim, so it wouldn’t make sense to include that detail if they are trying to make such a big point about the threat it posed.

For example, the headline uses loaded language like “groped” rather than more neutral language, there are ways they could have presented this that would have been more dismissive if that was their aim. Even describing it as a security incident shows they aren’t intending to be dismissive.

That said, the people of Chiapas are probably more aligned with her politically than not (the Zapatista movement springs from that region, they are targeted by right-wing groups - they need protection). If she knew their intentions, I am not sure she would have been too worried. (I say this as someone who has been in a bus that was stopped by men with guns in central America, it’s maybe more common than people realize. It is scary when you don’t know what’s going to happen, though.)

wondering why that would be a primarily “female reason” for admission, then - wouldn’t drugs that impact breathing or muscles be administered or accessible to men as well?

Someone else suggested date rape drugs, that seems like a possibility - but is it typical for date rape drugged victims to end up in the hospital such that “agents acting on muscles and breathing” becomes the reason for admission? Just doesn’t make sense, tbh

why would this be a “female” reason to be admitted to the hospital?

you usually see a gynecologist for pap smears once a year, but there might be one willing to do prostate exams for post-op trans women … usually trans affirming gynecologists are for pro-op trans men

maybe post-op trans women would see a gynecologist, just not sure what for

agents acting on muscles and breathing? 🤔

Makeup can have an aging effect, especially I find foundation, powder, and eye shadow can make my skin look less soft and more textured.

Ideally you learn what needs improvement and how to do that with makeup, and you use as little as possible to achieve the effect. I don’t put on a glam look every time I walk out the door, but I ususally use a lash curler and mascara, I always use a cosmetic sunscreen, and I might cover up blemishes with concealer, and I ususally use a light pink tinted lip balm.

Unfortunately cis women have approaches to makeup and fashion than trans women because what needs compensated and what looks good will be different.

So it’s great to get a lesson at a place like Sephora to get started, but I would be watching makeup tutorials on youtube, particularly looking for feminizing makeup tips by trans women (you don’t want drag queen makeup tutorials, you want something that targets looking natural and feminine at the end, drag is intentionally exaggerated and overdone).

Samantha Lux has a video on feminizing makeup that is decent.

that’s pretty cute 💕🐰 💕