apotheotic (she/her)

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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • When I identified as enby I definitely also identified as trans. I think its likely that the enbies who are more toward “agender” will also decline the trans label as it can carry the baggage of gender to begin with. Nonbinary is a huuuuuuge umbrella so it makes sense that some will also adopt the trans label and some won’t.

    Totally valid if you’re an enby forever or if you do find out you’re a lady! I think many transfems may experience what I did, which is really just minimising ones own feelings - “nonbinary is okay because its not like I’m transfem or anything! real trans people have much more heavy feelings than I do” (cut to me daydreaming about being a woman and feeling uncomfortable seeing my own body in the shower). And then enby just serves as a handy stepping stone because its more “digestible” than transbinary.

    Its easy enough to figure out - try on the full fem pronouns or adjectives or clothes or accessories or whatever!

    Good luck to you :)



  • I’m trans as fuck, and had a very similar experience to you - right down to identifying as nonbinary for a while. Theres no “right way” to be trans, and like you I don’t experience dysphoria from my genitals.

    What I can suggest is that if you have people whom you trust and feel safe with, start trying on she/her pronouns with them. Perhaps ask your wife to try referring to you as her wife!

    Whatever the outcome, remember that its going to be okay, you are valid, you are worthy of love, and gender is a spectrum.