

Legally, at least in the U.S. (though I hear not in Japan?), if you’re sued on a defamation case (slander or libel), if you can prove that what you said was true, that’s an ironclad defense.
I think it’s fair to say that you can’t necessarily know if something you’ve said about something was ethically acceptable until it’s certain whether what you said was true or not. If you say something about someone that you aren’t 100% sure is true, then whether it’s ok for you to have said that can’t really be known until the truth or falsehood of the assertion is certain.
Ok, I’ll be the first to ask.
You’re a wonderful, valid, entire person who can’t be well described by just this one thing. But it’s interesting to get a peek into what’s unique and different about folks’ internal experience of the world. Also, don’t feel like you have to answer anything you don’t want to.