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  • TheSambassador@lemmy.worldtome_irl@lemmy.worldme_irl
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    5 days ago

    I’m sorry that my comment was a bit dismissive and invalidating. I didn’t really mean it to be, but I’ve been frustrated - I keep seeing this breed of misanthropy, and I understand why it’s an easy explanation for why things are bad, but it feels very clear to me that misanthropes ignore the vast catalog of human experience and lifespan and cherry-pick the negatives. When you believe that everyone is generally shitty, it’s easy to justify being generally shitty yourself (not saying that you are, just saying in general). You also then just start avoiding people in general, and every time you are forced to interact with people, you start looking for a way out.

    I’ve honestly been there. I’ve been in that headspace. Any positive thing can be dulled by a “yeah but…” And then you look for ways to invalidate the positive things that did happen… calling them “transactional”. You go into the hard emotionless philosophy of “well technically everything is transactional, even altruism doesn’t really exist because your brain is making you feel good” and you feel RIGHT. Every terrible thing that happens you get to reinforce how RIGHT you are about the universe. The news is happy to feed you a torrent of terrible things that humans are doing, you avoid people most of the time so your chances of positive interactions are limited, and your worldview colors every interaction you have with people, so you either interpret or project negativity.

    "If you look for the light, you will often find it, but if you look for the dark, that is all you will ever see

    IDK, I guess I just want to challenge your perception a bit. It’s very possible that this is just depression, because it was for me. A mix of life changes, changes in my mindset, and medication have led me to where I am now. The thing that clicked for me was noticing how much my negative mood could affect my perceptions of people, and how easy it was for that mood to feed on itself.

    Sorry if this comes off as condescending. I just honestly believe that most humans have the capacity for great good, and it really is just about us believing in ourselves and each other. We also have a capacity for great evil, when we believe that that’s how everyone else is. I have to push back on that.


  • TheSambassador@lemmy.worldtome_irl@lemmy.worldme_irl
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    6 days ago

    Except the vast majority of human interactions are either neutral or positive. If you approach life with the outlook that everyone is transactional, it’s going to shape your behavior into an unlikable grump.

    How does this cynical doomer shit get so much consistent up votes and echoes?


  • TheSambassador@lemmy.worldtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.worldThoughts?
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    15 days ago

    They aren’t talking about empathy, this is something else. It’s about the guilt of feeling happiness in a world that seems like it’s going in the wrong direction.

    That guilt is understandable, but when it becomes so pervasive that you feel the need to express that guilt on every single expression of joy, that seems unhealthy for society, and it makes people much less likely to join a movement.















  • TheSambassador@lemmy.worldtoMemes@sopuli.xyzYes
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    2 months ago

    The CD Key written on the CD was a very famous infinite license key that pretty much everyone who had a pirated copy of windows was using. You also used to need to reformat more often for a clean wipe of your computer, so many people got used to entering this specific key.


  • TheSambassador@lemmy.worldtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.worldprob
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    2 months ago

    The number of people I talk to who mindlessly regurgitate the “fact” that “most people are terrible” seems to be going up. Most people don’t act like they think that’s true, but once you really internalize that kind of misanthropy, assuming every interaction will be negative is how you go through the world.

    Your assumptions about the world greatly impact how you interact with it, and when you stop looking for anything good, you’ll only see good things when they’re shoved in your face. It’s easy to justify your general malaise because you tell yourself everyone is like that.