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Cake day: October 4th, 2023

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  • My parents emigrated from Aus/NZ just before I was born, so I inherited a bunch of weird down-under, outdated vocabulary.

    “What are you fossicking around in the pantry for?” “Did you find a few skerrigs of chocolate?” “I need to use the dunny.” “That guy in car dealership was apoplectic.”

    Lots of other turns of phrase, but - with the possible exception of “dunny” are legit words.

    EDIT: OK. A few others, I still use ‘blasted’ as an adjective. If my kids do something ridiculous, “Jesus wept, child,” sometimes comes out of my mouth. Then a bunch of, “running around like a sprayed blowfly,” or, “wandering around like a lost soul.”


  • Second one looks good. She has got a bit click-baity, but I found a lot of Thais Gibson’s “Personal Development School” channel on YouTube to be really accessible. She has links to tests, but it’s also useful just listening to her video overviews if the different attachment styles and seeing if you recognise yourself in any of the descriptions. Certainly I was at a loss, watched them, and was like, “Oh shit! Her description of anxious preoccupieds and dismissive avoidance is almost verbatim what I’m dealing with!”

    If you are dismissive avoidant, don’t read the comments. There are a lot of butthurt anxious preoccupieds out there. They really do experience DAs like that, but they’ve got their own shit to work out and contribute to the dynamic.


  • Nosing (instead of reversing) into a parking spot. You always pick the conditions of your arrival, but not always your departure. Also, reversing into traffic is ridiculous and illegal in some places. Parking nose-first is dangerous and lazy.

    EDIT: Love how you’re all justifying your bad driving habits. Camera? Still can’t scan for incoming traffic. Bad weather only on occasion? It’s more than bad weather that can make reversing out of a door dangerous.

    … and I HATE angle parking.















  • I’m not a medical professional, but I’ve got a few in the family and my own experience to go on.

    Medical professionals do not seem to respond well to self-diagnosis. I’d stop at the list of symptoms, and then see what they say. If they point in a different direction be ready to hear it, but at that point I’d maybe say something like, “Hmm, Y could be it. I’ve wondered if it might be X, do you think that’s possible?” By asking a question instead of telling them, you’re framing things as them as the expert rather than you being adversarial, or preempting their work.

    It’s a bit silly, but as a professional in a different field it is absolutely infuriating how people with one hour of amateur Googling will toe-to-toe with me with years of intensive study. I’m not saying you’re wrong, just some point ego kicks in for just about anybody. Let them be the expert.

    I suspect you already know this, but DO NOT ask for particular medications. That’s something people with “drug seeking behavior” do. Ask if there is something that might help. If it’s not what you want, then, “I’ve tried that before and I didn’t find it helped. It’s there something else?” Maybe then you could say something like, “is a ketamine infusion an option?”

    As for the clerks at the desk … err on the side of not telling them much, i.e. “I’ve got these three symptoms and I’m really concerned. If this goes on for X more days, I’m going to be in a bad place. Dr. Familyphysician said she wanted me to see Dr. Specialist as soon as possible.” They’re professional gate keepers. Allow them to feel important for helping you. Don’t give them any reason to shut the gate on you. It’s their only real agency. Don’t give them a reason to use it.

    Be conscious that there are a lot of problematic patients. A lot. DON’T look like one.