I think that is the experience for anyone who doesn’t present as a gender conforming man who is conventionally attractive though usually when men do it towards me as a very femme presenting woman, it comes with some awful behaviour.
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StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's a service you’ve been using forever that hasn’t enshitified?
1·16 days agoalternatively you could use your imagination. get used to it without porn and you’ll have better sex too.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Did it really used to be common for guys to go to a bar every night like in Cheers or The Simpsons?
3·18 days agome and my friends used to be regulars in a shitty pub where there was a group of older people who would be in there all day every day.
he was probably double my age but it didn’t stop him coming over to our table and pestering me and some of the other women.
we didn’t go in too frequently but the staff recognised us as regulars. we had to stop because some nasty people would come in on a specific day and one of our group wqs afraid of running into them.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•The people who protest against the Palestinian Genocide would be the same people who protested against the Holocaust.
2·18 days agoI completely agree. anti-Deutsch have be3j internationally condemned
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Wordpress@sh.itjust.works•Automattic files counterclaims against WP Engine in WordPress lawsuit, alleging trademark misuse
0·19 days agoit would be nice for the court to give wp engine the trademark as compo for all this fucking about
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•The people who protest against the Palestinian Genocide would be the same people who protested against the Holocaust.
3·19 days agoits a bit more complex, sadly. german antifascist groups have been leaning towards being very zionist
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Technology@lemmy.world•Reddit users in the UK must now upload selfies to access NSFW subredditsEnglish
1·4 months agoThat said, as someone who has posted stuff like that and had it spread without my consent, screw (very much not literally) consuming that shit without taking the same risks as the people sharing what they get off to.
I do think its gross to require it for the other NSFW stuff. Drug forums are very important resources for harm reduction.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Mental Health@lemmy.world•my boyfriend plays video games every chance he getsEnglish
71·4 months agoYou aren’t alone. My relationship is very similar but we are wlw. I still love her but I know I certainly need more in the relationship department because her chronic pain and mh means she ends up gaming all day when I stopped being as much of a gamer years ago. I will sometimes just ask her to do mundane tasks on my computer for me so I feel like we are doing something together. I have a really active social life but she has a couple of friends she socialises with every so often.
I’ve been thinking about it for a while so I thought adding my two cents from a similar position might help. I think being poly might be the right answer for me and taking over the room of another housemate when they leave.
I feel really fulfilled by my friends but I feel lonely in my relationship. I suppose that the difference is that it feels like some of will do cute little things to help me without being asked when my gf feels like she needs prompting to do anything more than look up from her screen and tell me she loves me.
I’m disabled myself and elements of my disability frustrate her too but she says that she is upset with the disability and not me and I feel the same towards her. I know that if she would pay enough attention to the real world that she would remember how much pain she is in, but I can’t stop myself feeling lonely despite that.
I don’t want to feel like I’m butting in on your post with this, I thought being upfront about it might make you feel a little less alone like your post did for me. :)
I’m currently sat beside my wife who is half asleep hugging one of our blahaj. She sleeps with one every night.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoInsanePeopleFacebook@lemmy.world•This member of the Klan wants you to join so you can be as smart as he is.
14·5 months agoIts more likely that they could see people mocking some views that they already hold qnd double down on picking up others. Fash are fragile. I know of one who cites the clouds looking wrong as what radicalised him.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoInsanePeopleFacebook@lemmy.world•This member of the Klan wants you to join so you can be as smart as he is.
17·5 months agoIt can be triggering for people on the receiving end of it. That said, it might be part of a long line of things thay convinces someone it’s “normal”
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Firefox@lemmy.ml•Has anyone else noticed Firefox becoming more buggy recently?
1·5 months agoSince 112ish, I’ve had a bug where it keeps reloading rapidly. Forcing Xwayland makes it a little bit better but it is far from completely fixed
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Games@lemmy.world•Hytale, once touted as the Minecraft killer, is ceasing developmentEnglish
6·5 months agoDoes anyone remember Yogventures?
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Technology@lemmy.world•‘FuckLAPD.com’ Lets Anyone Use Facial Recognition to Instantly Identify CopsEnglish
391·5 months agoPutting it out there for someone to do this for cops in the UK. I can’t run infrastructure but the cops terrorise out local community and constantly refuse to identify themselves/turn off their badge cam.
I don’t really know what to say other than to say that there are absolutely guys that do this, because they see it as less stigmatised than therapy.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
The Onion@midwest.social•Sabrina Carpenter Undergoes State-Mandated Lobotomy To Cure NymphomaniaEnglish
221·5 months agoHonestly, I love how she has managed to make such a brand out of reclaiming her sexuallity. I really hope that its her choice rather than her management. I bet she gets some particularly nightmarish fans.
Seriously though, don’t go using sex workers as therapists that you screw. Its fucking weird having a guy as old as your dad tell you about how hard his life is with his hand on your leg as it is.
I’m opposed to violence, however I define it differently to how the state does. One example of violence that wouldn’t be considered by the state to be violence is calling the cops.
Violence is a hierarchy and as soon as you understand that, the more you understand it as a meaningless term.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ?
12·5 months agoI think I’m just gonna tag you as a misogynist with my Lemmy client and move on with my day. Maybe less demanding women debate you in the marketplace of ideas might be good for you. This is weird and beggy.







i’m dirt poor but I feel like ive already has quite an impact on a reasonable number of people. I won’t take about the specific things that i get up to but community work can reach a lot of people if you do it right. start a food not bombs, open an autonomous squatted homeless shelter