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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • Yeah, I used to want to text a lot before meeting face to face, but have learned that almost always means I start to “fill in the blanks” and the person I meet never matches up with my expectations. By meeting face to face quickly, I don’t have a chance to build those expectations and am unlikely to feel “catfished” by anything other than blantant lies on their profile.

    I think the bigger problem is that the apps really amplify the sense of “there’s always more fish in the sea.” So if that first date wasn’t full of sparks, people often prefer to see what other options are out there, rather than going on second dates to see if anything develops.

    With the online approach, I know I’m very guilty of focusing on the other person’s “flaws”, and deciding they’re deal breakers. With people I meet via offline methods, we generally get to know each other a bit more organically and end up having multiple unofficial “dates” before the first official date.

    My last actual date was over a year ago, with someone I met offline through mutual friends. There was definitely an initial spark, but it fizzled almost as quickly (mostly my own discomfort with emotional intimacy). We’re actually still friends though, and hang out with each other more often than I hang out with the friend who introduced us. If we had met via dating apps, I highly doubt we would still be friends because we just wouldn’t have any reason to cross paths organically.






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    Ahh, yes, fediverse is fun. I accidentally hit the submit button when I was nowhere near done, so I quickly deleted the original comment while I continued working on my draft. Once I was done composing my thoughts, I tried editing the deleted comment, but even after refreshing it still shows as deleted for me, so I submitted my final draft as a new comment instead.


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    I’ve seen at least a few kibbles that include some freeze dried raw meat in them, so I don’t think “kibble” is 100% safe unless you’re paying close attention. For example: https://www.chewy.com/instinct-original-recipe-real-chicken/dp/693326

    I also just want to note for anyone reading here that the venn diagram of “raw” food and “wet” food has very minimal overlap, especially in terms of what’s sitting on the shelves in stores. Most canned food is not raw, and should be safe from bird flu.

    In order to maximize shelf life, most raw food is generally sold either freeze dried or frozen. In the case of freeze dried, it’s often stored at room temperature, and you can either reconstitute with water to serve “wet” or serve “as is” in it’s dry, crunchy form. Something else to be aware of is that a lot of treats at the “fancy” pet supply stores are freeze dried and raw, so it’s worth paying very close attention if your cat is immunocompromised (very young, pregnant/nursing, senior, FIV+, etc.) and/or if you’re concerned about bird flu.



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    I’m not your vet, so I’m sharing this for informational purposes, but your vet seems to have the opposite opinion of most vets I’ve spoken with. I foster with a few different organizations, so I’ve spoken with quite a few vets.

    I had originally been feeding my own cats mostly kibble, but their vet strongly encouraged me to transition them to at least 50% wet. They won’t really touch the wet if they also have kibble available, so now they only get wet food in their dishes, and kibble is reserved for use as treats. My oldest had his annual exam a few weeks ago and the vet said his teeth look great.

    Studies have shown that cats that eat primarily dry food may drink more water than cats that eat primarily wet food, but cats on a primarily wet food diet overall consume more water. This is particularly important for their kidney and urinary health.

    Dry food also tends to be much higher in carbohydrates, and cats really don’t need carbohydrates, like at all. They need lots of protein and some fat.


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    I’m not your vet, so I’m sharing this for informational purposes, but your vet seems to have the opposite opinion of most vets I’ve spoken with. I foster with a few different organizations, so I’ve spoken with quite a few vets.

    I had originally been feeding my own cats mostly kibble, but their vet strongly encouraged me to transition them to at least 50% wet. They won’t really touch the wet if they also have kibble available, so now they only get wet food in their dishes, and kibble is reserved for use as treats. My oldest had his annual exam a few weeks ago and the vet said his teeth look great.

    Studies have shown that cats that eat primarily dry food may drink more water than cats that eat primarily wet food, but cats on a primarily wet food diet overall consume more water. This is particularly important for their kidney and urinary health.

    Dry food also tends to be much higher in carbohydrates, and cats really don’t need carbohydrates, like at all. They need lots of protein and some fat.

    https://cats.com/wet-vs-dry-cat-food https://catinfo.org/





  • I never really had trouble getting dates on Tinder, etc., but very few of those led to second dates. Of the people I’ve dated that I met without the help of apps, I probably would’ve “swiped left” on most of them. As another user said, general human interaction is my current route, focusing my energy on social interactions where I can meet people the old fashioned way: mostly friends of friends. That can range from get togethers at someone’s house, happy hours, general meetup groups, volunteering, hobbies and/or classes.