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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • I mean, yes, sex is often free but if one gender is willing to pay significantly more it seems like a pretty reasonable indicator that one gender values/desires sex more.

    I dunno, just seems like you are very much determined that something is true with zero evidence. Some people have religion, you have this belief. Except with religion, there’s not reams of physical evidence you’ve decided to disregard because you dislike the conclusions they represent.



  • Unsure where you’re getting my sample from.

    I’m using actual things that exist rather than my own experience because I understand that my experiences are not universal and are inherently subjective. Making blanket statements based on anyone’s experience is nonsensical.

    And businesses, like online porn catering to men are pretty decent proof that men are hornier, that’s how capitalism works. Where a desire exists, businesses will fill it. Unless women are drastically poorer (a little so but hardly enough to rationalize an entire industry all but not existing) then a lack of demand indicates… you guessed it, a lack of demand.



  • You could just as easily be proving my point as you think you’re proving yours.

    How on Earth would the overwhelming majority of strip clubs featuring naked women be evidence that women are as horny as guys?

    But fine, remove the physical shame etc. Set your browser to incognito, google porn and let me know how long it takes before you find a site catering to women instead of guys.












  • Absolutely! And in fact, pretty good time to do so. A lot of ppl are transitioning from school to work at your age, so finding new interesting friends etc.

    That being said, making and nurturing friends is work and you may be a bit out of practice. No worries, just be ready to feel a bit out of your depth or nervous at times, knowing is half the battle. Plus, I think your cohort/age group are way more open with talking about enotional intelligence and friendship and the awkwardness of making new friends, which is super helpful.


  • Fair, I could have been more precise in my wording. But from context, I think it’s pretty clear I’m talking about what is more accurately called social or subsidized housing. (Low income is just anywhere poor.)

    And the point is that subsidized housing for the most destitute comes with huge costs. Not being able to admit and somehow confront these costs is a serious issue that makes it all the harder.

    I think about my buddy, a good progressive, lived here for decades. Kind of neighbourhood where we’re proud of our supervised on street harm reduction unit. But no one wants to raise their kid somewhere where, upon getting to the playground, your toddler has to wait while daddy frantically checks the playground for needles and other paraphanalia.

    I don’t have an answer and we need solutions but at the same, ignoring reality endears us to no one. If you’re right about affordable housing alleviating the need for subsidized housing, then whatever makes it easiest to make more affordable housing is crucial. Maybe we get more neighbourhoods on board with more affordable and less subsidized housing offers? Though that seems cruel to those who need it… Hence the whole dilemma…





  • I don’t know the answer either, but I think making a judgement that all low income housing attracts only people struggling with drug addiction or mental health is not quite right either.

    Oh you’re absolutely right. But the ones that stand out in people’s heads are the ones that are incredibly visible. There’s a recovery house down my block, almost no one would know it exists if someone didn’t tell you. BUT that also means that the people who are concerned about these places probably don’t know or think of those ones.

    Heck, a senior citizen I know lives in what would be a really nice socially supported building but, it is on arguably the worst street in Canada. You wouldn’t know from the interior (or the exterior if you couldn’t see the street) or most of her neighbours that I’ve met but she’s also been in the hospital after being assaulted for her purse.

    I think that’s part of the hard part with socially supportive housing, if we can’t or don’t have the means to differentiate between the ones that are likely to bring serious issues and the ones that are going to be unobtrusive, the default position for most people will be fear and suspicion. Not that that’s a solution but that’s where the issue is.