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  • Obama won the 2008 Dem primary because more people voted for him.

    Hilary won the 2016.dem primary because more people voted for her.

    Biden won the 2020 Dem primary because more people voted for him.

    There wasn’t a serious challenge in 2024, so when the ageist drumbeat in the establishment finally chased him out the damage was done.

    I’m not surprised that someone who thinks “the person more people wanted won” is evidence of corruption would hear “mention 2024 whenever someone questions a Dem primary” and jump to the entirely wrong understanding.

    Let me re-state, more clearly:

    No incumbent democratic should ever get to skip the primary when they run for re-election. Every damn one, especially for POTUS, should have to succeed at persuading primary voters. There is no merit to skipping the primary, and Biden 2024 would have either dropped out earlier or been in campaign shape.

    Hell, if no one else the VPOTUS should run a primary challenge. It’s how most have gotten the job for decades, and tied in to their actual constitutional responsibility anyway.






  • The DNC is, and always has been, a red herring thrown off by those who want to justify their endorsement of Republican victories.

    Nobody cares about the RNC,and they literally have the exact same amount of power. The only real difference is that Dem primary voters rejected the more-extreme candidate in 2016, while Red primary voters stumbled their way to Trump after losing two POTUS campaigns that they thought would be easy wins.

    There’s a whole bunch of blame to go around on the left for 2024, but arguing “the DNC is corrupt” doesn’t help anyone learn from the mistakes.

    (Personally, I am going to refer to Biden 2024 for the rest of my life whenever someone questions a primary challenge to an incumbent.)



  • Just based on the MCU portrayal:

    Barnes was a WW2 soldier who was captured and tortured as a POW, only to be saved by his now-buff 95-lbs weakling best friend. He fought alongside Rogers for an unspecified number of months, until he was thrown from a train.

    After that, he was captured by the same mad scientist and brainwashed into a remorseless killing machine. His recovery from being so was long, and involved first being on the run, then a superhero civil war, and then some years as a guest of a mythical African kingdom.

    Then endgame happened, and the whole darn world had one of two traumatic shocks. Barnes had some lingering trauma afterwards, but can be seen working through it in Falcon and Winter Soldier.

    It’s been a few years, but not once did they show him screaming at hydra in Russian.

    In Thunderbolts, Barnes is literally the only team member to have actually come to terms with the terrible things he did. (Followed closely by Red Guardian). Whatever trauma he did experience was almost certainly something he had already processed.


  • US patents only last for 20 years. Technically, nothing is stopping you from making a part-for-part copy of a good laser printer from 2005 and selling it the same way some companies do replacement toner.

    It’s just that making a cheap and reliable appliance is HARD if there are dozens of distinct parts that all have to move together. Heck, id expect a near-clone of a Cuisinart stand mixer before I’d expect a printer.

    (And, even then, i doubt it’d be much cheaper than just buying one used.)

    Edit: patents, not parents.


  • Mostly closeted late-identified MtF non-binary here:

    You’ve cleanly identified the central uncertainty behind a hell of a lot of “gender binary” discourse, but you’re also brushing against a flamewar about something called “transmedicalism.”

    (Thankfully, neither one needs to be answered to get to the correct public policy outcomes of “let people be people” and “don’t be a sexist fart.”)

    Transmedicalism can be defined as a belief that only those who medically transition are transgender, with anything short of full HRT and surgery as merely a compromise state and anyone not transitioning full time dismissed as a cisgender person playing pretend indulging in something less than.

    Needless to say, there are strong opinions on both sides. Just as there are LGB cis people who dismiss T as a class needing respect and protection, there are T people who dismiss Q+ as a class needing protection or respect.

    What makes the argument especially infuriating is the dearth of good statistics on non-cisgender folk at all. Between low sample sizes, huge variance between state law and ethnic acceptance, and often-insulting definitions, precise data is harder to come by for trans sexuality than f-on-m sexual assault.

    For your specifics;

    • Social expectations are a huge part of gender identity. If I had been born decades later I very well might have come out as non-binary in high school, or might have instead been a full-time trans girl. And if I lived in a redder state, or had a more right-wing partner, I might still identify as entirely cis.

    • Maybe? Like I said, it’s really hard to know.

    • Data point worth noting : the cis folk who are closest to me are definitely cis.

    • With the.huge caveat about data noted above, my understanding is that trans men and women are about even on their split between which sexes or genders they are attracted to. The most prominent single group may be MtF trans women who were in a cishet marriage before they transitioned, but my impression is that about 25% are “gay”, 25% “straight”, 25% “queer”, and 25% “confused by terms.”




  • Whether or not the cops arrest you depends entirely on how they are approached. Unfortunately, they vary from town to town and maybe even shift to shift.

    Thankfully, the police probably aren’t the only option available.

    If your domestic partner is violently abusing you, you are a victim of domestic violence. There are social services in virtually any country where it’s not legal to just slap your spouse, to help stop the slapping to stop. Places to start looking:

    1. A domestic violence advocacy group.
    2. A social-good organization, like a local church or food bank.
    3. Your employer’s HR department.
    4. Your doctor.
    5. Your lawyer.

    All of the above should either have someone they can refer you to, or be able to help you themselves. If you have a lawyer on retainer you definitely should call them first, and if you have decent health care your GP doctor or an urgent care should be able to check how badly you’re hurt and document the violence.

    If all else fails, go to your local police department and tell them you want to report a crime. Or just leave and crash with family or a friend.

    If your partner hits you and tells you that you’d be arrested if you call the cops on them, they are telling you that they will do it again and lie about it.


  • DomeGuy@lemmy.worldtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldsus
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    No apologies necessary*. I certainly wasn’t trying to offend, just be accurate in model setting.

    A more accurate umbrella term for “affair tolerant monogamy” would probably be “non-monogamous”, with the dividing line between that and “polyamory” being exactly what you said : all persons in the relationship cluster knowing the stances of all other participants.

    Accurate and non-offensive terminology can be hard.

    It does circle us back to OP, though. The answer to “what happens when one couple breaks up in a polucule” is a loud and emphatic that depends on what type of polucule you’re in.

    (*: no apologies needed from you. To the extent that I caused you any distress I sincerely apologize. Causing pain was not at all my intent.)


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    While this is certainly a valid form of romance, it’s more accurately described as “non-exclusive simultaneous relationships” than a single “polyamorous relationship”.

    Some people really do live in multi-partner committed households, but those seem most often to be dominated by a single person, such as fringe Mormon polygamy. And the most common form of "polyamory’ is probably “affair-tolerant monogamy.”

    It’s a big complicated world, and variations of how humans with form intimate relationships fills all possibilities when there is no enforced legal prohibition. (And,.sometimes, even then.)


  • The star trek prime directive is essentially “every species has the right to develop their own culture.”. Which nicely mirrors an EPD phrasing of “every person had the right to develop their own gender.”

    If we instead go with a phrasing like “never interfere with pre-warp societies”, we’d need to add on bits about “except when they’re about to die” or “except when the fate of the galaxy is at stake”.or “except if you know them really well”, and have a codicil for the similar principle where warp-capable species also get to do their own thing.

    Here’s a useful starting point I found from a five minute web search, which helpfully has pointers to where the author believes the term originates.

    https://isaacg1.github.io/2024/10/14/caring-about-eggs.html


  • DomeGuy@lemmy.worldtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.worldEgg prime directive
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    11 days ago

    You’re mis-stating the egg prime directive and then arguing that your mis-statement is bad. Which is kind of like a FART mis-stating the trans agenda as “wanting to let boys play girls sports if they wear a skirt for a day.”

    (Not to mention the whole cis/trans split papers over the absurd number of various “nonbinary” options.)

    The egg prime directive is simply “don’t declare someone else as trans.”. Tell them it’s OK to be trans. Ask them if they are trans. Even go so far as to suggest that they might be, if you know the person and they are struggling.

    Just don’t try lecturing someone else on their gender.