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  • As I already said in my other response, it’s really about the developing child. Jonathan Haidt’s books “The Coddling of the American Mind” and “The Anxious Generation” both talk about the idea of over protectionism. You cannot deny that buy expensive shoes they will inevitably grow out of to avoid some light teasing from the school boys is over protecting them. They should be tough enough to handle comments about the fact they don’t have expensive shoes. If they aren’t, that’s a great parenting moment to help them work through those feelings and how to better handle the social situations.


  • The goal of childhood is to prepare you for adulthood. It is better to be teased as a developing child, especially for something trivial, and be a well rounded adult. Children have to figure out how to navigate difficult social situations themselves, rather than simply avoiding them. It is becoming increasingly problematic when kids aren’t working things out amongst themselves, or at the very least putting up with it, and instead resort to having an adult fix it for them. If they learn they can always go to an adult to fix their problems, they are being prepared for an authoritarian government. The solution to their problems is a higher power that will fix things for them. This is not quite the same, but it is avoiding difficult confrontation over something as trivial as shoes.

    I do think kids should also have the freedom to choose their own shoes. If you give them a budget, and they can find Nike shoes in that budget, good on them. Maybe they even keep an eye on them going on sale. But if they cannot find shoes within the budget, they will have to settle for what they like within their price range. Which is also a valuable lesson for a developing teen.

    they feel those problems with the same intensity we do

    We cannot protect kids from big feelings. It is vital they experience big feelings. It’s becoming increasingly problematic with over protectionism and treating children as fragile beings. It’s caused higher levels of anxiety and reduced social skills. While you may say them not having name brand shoes will lead to anxiety, if they are always given a way out of their easy to handle middle school problems, how are they going to be prepared for adulthood problems, or the countless other things out of their control. They need to experience the anxiety and learn how to handle it in healthy ways.

    something that’s important to a child should also be important to their parents, in my opinion

    I get where you’re coming from, but that cannot be universally true (and I think you would agree). A child wanting every toy they ever see, no matter how important to them, obviously is not going to be important to you as a parent. If a teen thinks it’s important everyone they meet loves them, you cannot encourage extreme people pleasing. No kid “needs” name brand shoes. That is very distinctly a want. Perhaps they do some extra chores to earn their more expensive shoes, so you are all happy. But simply giving them expensive shoes they will inevitably grow out of because of a few comments from some school bullies is not a big problem. It is a little problem. Kids can handle little problems without adult intervention.














  • The reality for most people is they charge their phone at night, and that’s it. If the phone has a built in mechanism to stop charging at a certain percentage, you can use that, but otherwise it will just charge to 100%.

    The only other option would be to have a smart outlet, and have your phone turn off the smart outlet when it hits 80%, which is an annoyance even if you know how to do it, and virtually impossible for tech illiterate people.

    The next best thing is to make sure you aren’t using a fast charger, as the heat from fast charging is arguably worse than charging it to 100%. And if it’s charging over night, there is no reason for it to charge quickly.


  • I am in the US, and I despise what’s going on. So please do not take what I am about to say as a defense to what is happening here.

    Things are pretty extreme right now, but they aren’t as bad as the extreme left media is making it out to be. I find news articles posted on Lemmy are often sensationalized. There are 100% things we need to worry about, and things I myself am fighting (most everything the orange man does). But I do not think it is so bad you should cancel a big opportunity for yourself. Obviously things are happening to people, but most people are traveling to and from the US without any issues. You aren’t going to hear reports about all the people who didn’t have any issues while traveling.

    I do not think there is reason to believe anything would happen to you. The right doesn’t want you here, so they absolutely aren’t going to keep you here as a prisoner. If they wanted you out, you would gladly leave on your own accord and cover all the expenses. They wouldn’t spend more money making you leave if you don’t want to be here anyway.


  • Bazoogle@lemmy.worldtoPrivacy@lemmy.mlThe Privacy Iceberg
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    Bitwarden had some security issues historically.

    What security issues? If you mean potential security vulnerabilities researcher found that they’ve patched, I don’t understand how that would be different from Keepass and their previous security vulnerabilities. Bitwarden has never had a security issues historically that I know of. Lastpass, on the other hand…

    I generally recommend using software for password managers that isn’t internet connected.

    I also recommend they upload it to whatever cloud storage they use

    I also really don’t get these two. They seem to contradict each other.

    I usually recommend bitwarden, where they can use the browser extension and mobile phone app. It gives them autofill features on all their sites. Getting someone to change their passwords and use a password manager is already difficult enough. Giving them the most convenient option is going to make it more like they stick with it.


  • Being social is pretty similar to exercising. When you first try to do it after a while, it’s usually painful and not enjoyable. It isn’t until practicing and keeping at it that it will get easier and you can actually feel the benefits. Finding someone that you can actually share your hobbies with can go a long way, especially if they are able to give some sort of input as well that is beneficial to what you’re working on.



  • Yea, telegram being advertised as a privacy messenger is a joke. If people want to have group chats like in discord and don’t care about privacy, whatever. But to try and flaunt how privacy focused you are while using your own home-brewed encryption is a joke. Not to mention the fact you have to turn it on for every chat you want end to end encrypted.

    The whole thing about not giving out data is really only accomplished by spreading user data across several countries. So you would have to get a search warrant from every country to get the data, relying on some countries not wanting to cooperate with other countries. That is not real security. Real security would be encrypting it so you literally couldn’t give them the data, even if they had a search warrant. Ya know, like signal.