My wife’s brother has autism and one time we invited him over for dinner. He’s an avid mushroom hater. Well, this dinner we completely spaced that and had mushrooms in our dinner.
He ate it all and loved it. We decided to just keep it a secret.
My mother is also ‘allergic’ to everything under the sun. Strawberries make her burst out in hives. Except, they don’t. She accidentally had strawberries in a fruit salad and nothing bad happened. (She’s still allergic to them, of course).
I know real food allergies exist, but it’s hard to take it at face value when I’ve got the experience I do in seeing people straight up lie to themselves and everyone around them.
What do you think would happen if you told him about the mushrooms?
I had a BIL who hated any kind of seafood. Couldn’t be in the same room if we were eating shrimp. I made an Asian beef stew with fish sauce and I watched him tear through that. One of my big life regrets not telling him and then stepping back and watching it unfold.
I’ll be honest and say straight up that I don’t like mushrooms. But if you can dice them up into a stew or something so that I don’t notice that’s fine. But I can’t help but fixate on them whenever I see them on food, even if the taste isn’t that strong. Same with onion rings. Onion rings were ruined when I noticed they weren’t just some weird French fry my parents bought.
Granted I’m reasonable about food and don’t ask for special orders. So I won’t through a fit about stuff. But there no need to force someone to change if you don’t think they are willing. Doubly so if they have autism.
My guess is he would’ve gotten pissed and not changed his view on mushrooms at all. Stuff like that becomes a personality trait for some people. Admitting mushrooms can be good is like admitting he’s not himself.
I can relate to this one- I generally don’t like seafood, if I smell or taste it, I won’t enjoy what I’m eating even if it’s something else. But I can eat canned tuna, as long as it’s the good stuff, and a few times I have been talked into trying someone’s fish dish that they “cook differently”- usually it’s not different, but on two occasions, I have been surprised. 20 years ago a neighbor made some buttered shrimp that was quite good, and a few years ago my wife got me to try some smoked salmon, and I was ok with it.
My wife’s brother has autism and one time we invited him over for dinner. He’s an avid mushroom hater. Well, this dinner we completely spaced that and had mushrooms in our dinner.
He ate it all and loved it. We decided to just keep it a secret.
My mother is also ‘allergic’ to everything under the sun. Strawberries make her burst out in hives. Except, they don’t. She accidentally had strawberries in a fruit salad and nothing bad happened. (She’s still allergic to them, of course).
I know real food allergies exist, but it’s hard to take it at face value when I’ve got the experience I do in seeing people straight up lie to themselves and everyone around them.
What do you think would happen if you told him about the mushrooms?
I had a BIL who hated any kind of seafood. Couldn’t be in the same room if we were eating shrimp. I made an Asian beef stew with fish sauce and I watched him tear through that. One of my big life regrets not telling him and then stepping back and watching it unfold.
I’ll be honest and say straight up that I don’t like mushrooms. But if you can dice them up into a stew or something so that I don’t notice that’s fine. But I can’t help but fixate on them whenever I see them on food, even if the taste isn’t that strong. Same with onion rings. Onion rings were ruined when I noticed they weren’t just some weird French fry my parents bought.
Granted I’m reasonable about food and don’t ask for special orders. So I won’t through a fit about stuff. But there no need to force someone to change if you don’t think they are willing. Doubly so if they have autism.
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My guess is he would’ve gotten pissed and not changed his view on mushrooms at all. Stuff like that becomes a personality trait for some people. Admitting mushrooms can be good is like admitting he’s not himself.
Imagine growing as a person, can’t have that.
I can relate to this one- I generally don’t like seafood, if I smell or taste it, I won’t enjoy what I’m eating even if it’s something else. But I can eat canned tuna, as long as it’s the good stuff, and a few times I have been talked into trying someone’s fish dish that they “cook differently”- usually it’s not different, but on two occasions, I have been surprised. 20 years ago a neighbor made some buttered shrimp that was quite good, and a few years ago my wife got me to try some smoked salmon, and I was ok with it.