• BruceTwarzen@kbin.social
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    11 months ago

    I’m dating a girl that only wears nike shoes. She has like 30 pairs. Sometimes she sees a shoe and says: aww that one is nice, but it’s no nike. She said kids in her school made fun of her shoes, because she was poor, and bow she only wears nike shoes. I just find it odd to let 8 year olds decide how you live your life. She’s 35. Kids made fun of me because i wore levis jeans. I didn’t even know what that means at the time.

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      11 months ago

      That stuff can traumatize you for a long time. I’m a pretty big, bearded 30 something guy, who was subjected to pretty intense bullying in school as well.

      Literally to this day my heart starts racing and I start to panic sweat when I hear giggling teenagers in public.

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        11 months ago

        I experience paranoia comparable to this. It always comes from a weird angle where I cannot confront whatever is affecting me. Whenever my emotions go into overdrive like this, I cling to my objectives. What am I doing, where am I going, and even why. Then repeat as often as necessary until the moment passes.

      • Thelsim@sh.itjust.works
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        11 months ago

        *sigh* I know exactly what you mean…
        Childhood bullying can ruin the rest of your life. For me it resulted in having tons of insecurities. To this day I have a hard time accepting a compliment without thinking it might have an ulterior motive.

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      I’d be lying if I said it had no affect on me. I just choose to ignore and devalue it. I believe there should be a logical reason for whatever nonsense catches my attention. That’s been enough for me.