It seems like all the onus is on to socialise in the meantime you are relentlessly judged for how you go about socialising or dating. I am on college right now and I am seriously struggling to make friendships. My anxiety is kinda on overdrive because of it. I am expected to know if I am welcome to come or not but if I am not supposed I am judged severely. Meanwhile there’s no one really coming up to me trying to help me. You know I’d like to just once be good enough for someone to come up to me and say that they just want to be around me. Enough of the guesswork. I am tired of it. I’m in my mid 20s just give me a fucking break at this point. So much of my “disability” would just go away if people had the decency to fucking educate themselves and expect me to know everything. I put myself out there and talk to people. I’ve done my fucking part.
That’s the thing: they are “saying” that they just want to be around you, just not in a “language” that you are at all fluent in. It’s going to take a whole lot of conscious effort for you to interpret what other people are “saying, not saying,” and it will require you to tell people who you are and how you think and communicate. The good people will adapt their communication style to one which comes more naturally to you, because they want to be around you.
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