• average650@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Man, guys do this to everyone because they care about what they do. I’ve had guys do it to me and I love it because we can have a passionate conversation then.

    Look, if after she revealed who she was he dismissed her, then yeah, he’s an ass and the conversation is a waste of time. But, I know a lot of guys who would do exactly this and then be really excited to talk to her and learn about her experiences, myself included.

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      1 year ago

      Yup, my dad would have a blast talking running with anyone who will let him, and he’d do the same thing as this guy. There wouldn’t be an bit of condescension about it.

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        1 year ago

        No, you ask them if they’re familiar with the concept. You don’t give them a intro course to it. One treats them as a peer. The other treats them as unknowledgeable. It’s disrespectful to assume someone has no knowledge in the topic they admit to be interested in. Going on a long spiel isn’t a passionate dialogue. It’s a long monologue trying to teach someone something because you assume you’re the teacher and they’re the student in the situation.

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      1 year ago

      No, there are guys who absolutely talk to women as if they know nothing about the topic no matter what the woman stated before hand. I’ve seen guys do that to my coworker who’s been a developer for years and if they have to tell her some sort of critique on her code, they’ll explain from like a intro comp sci point and detail everything and then finally just mention their critique at the end. All that was needed was the criticism itself, not the full history of programming. When I get a critique, it’s just “hey, try XYZ because of ABC.”

      Happens at the gym too. Hell, I’ve literally been next to a woman who brings up a topic they like that the other guy likes and then they just start talking to me and I didn’t even mention I enjoy the topic.

      Just because you don’t do it, don’t pretend it doesn’t happen. Women react the ways they do because of experience. Also, I highly doubt you’ve seen guys talk to someone interested in the same topic in the same way as if the other person knows nothing. It’s disrespectful regardless of gender.

      I’ve seen it happen.

      Edit: let’s keep in mind, this whole time you’re correcting a woman on a topic that you’ve yet to show any experience in, plus weren’t even present for and all you have is her perspective, and you still said it’s wrong.

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        1 year ago

        Of course it happens. I never said it doesn’t. I said it sounds to me like he’s just passionate about something in this case. I even said if he ignores her expertise after he finds out who she is, then he’s an ass and ignore him.

        let’s keep in mind, this whole time you’re correcting a woman on a topic that you’ve yet to show any experience in, plus weren’t even present for and all you have is her perspective, and you still said it’s wrong.

        Dude, it’s a conversation with a stranger. Why do you act like I’ve never had any experience talking with a stranger?

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          1 year ago

          You’re doubling down on correcting her and saying her interpretation is worse than yours. And I need to point out again, you weren’t there and she was. Yet you still are committed to saying your interpretation is better. Wow. Just wow, buddy.

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            1 year ago

            So, we aren’t ever allowed to suggest that another course of action was better if we weren’t there? Really?

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              1 year ago

              No, you can do so. But have a better fucking reason than making up entirely different scenarios. When the situation actually contains enough info to know they’re wrong, then sure. But when there is no reason or evidence to question them, why do it?