It truly is if someone is not understanding how much of it is a myth. Look up the “Protestant Work Ethic” and how this has been used to justify wealth gaps and labeling the poor as lazy. It is so ingrained that many people don’t even know that it is a thing and still believe it
So what is it called if someone is 35, lives with their parents, and has never had a job in their life? Not even a part time job or anything. Literally never worked for a single dollar. Not trying to start a fight, just genuinely curious and want to learn.
I had a friend like this and the only word I could find to describe him was lazy. Eventually I had to cut him out of my life for completely unrelated reasons, but this was where he was at the last time I talked to him maybe 4 years ago.
He would complain that he had no money to buy things and have fun with friends, and I would suggest something like a part time job at a fast food place, or a grocery store, or anything. And he would say no because those types of jobs are beneath him, and he wants a good job like being an artist for video games. But he wouldn’t take the time to learn those things and develop those skills. He would just play video games for 16 hours a day, only taking breaks to eat and smoke weed, and then go to sleep, rinse and repeat.
At the face of it he seems lazy but there’s more likely some deeper emotion that he isn’t facing or isnt talking about. This sounds to me like a deeply Avoidant person. Trying to fill life with distractions.
I had known him from when we were children, and it seemed like he just never grew up. It could have been a mental disorder or something along those lines. But he was basically a a 12 year old in a 35 year old body.
I long suspected he might have schizophrenia based on his paranoia and the fact that he was constantly making up nonsensical stories that he swore were true (could have just been a pathological liar). But he refused to help himself after I asked him many times to see a mental health doctor. He lived in a country with free healthcare, so money wasn’t the issue.
the mentality your friend has is sadly not uncommon, and when pointing that out to some people they feel attacked and the need to retaliate.
I’m naturally lazy, but have to put effort to provide for my family. you have to give something to get something. Thats something unfortunately foreign to a lot of people who live on the internet.
It truly is if someone is not understanding how much of it is a myth. Look up the “Protestant Work Ethic” and how this has been used to justify wealth gaps and labeling the poor as lazy. It is so ingrained that many people don’t even know that it is a thing and still believe it
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So what is it called if someone is 35, lives with their parents, and has never had a job in their life? Not even a part time job or anything. Literally never worked for a single dollar. Not trying to start a fight, just genuinely curious and want to learn.
I had a friend like this and the only word I could find to describe him was lazy. Eventually I had to cut him out of my life for completely unrelated reasons, but this was where he was at the last time I talked to him maybe 4 years ago.
He would complain that he had no money to buy things and have fun with friends, and I would suggest something like a part time job at a fast food place, or a grocery store, or anything. And he would say no because those types of jobs are beneath him, and he wants a good job like being an artist for video games. But he wouldn’t take the time to learn those things and develop those skills. He would just play video games for 16 hours a day, only taking breaks to eat and smoke weed, and then go to sleep, rinse and repeat.
At the face of it he seems lazy but there’s more likely some deeper emotion that he isn’t facing or isnt talking about. This sounds to me like a deeply Avoidant person. Trying to fill life with distractions.
I had known him from when we were children, and it seemed like he just never grew up. It could have been a mental disorder or something along those lines. But he was basically a a 12 year old in a 35 year old body.
I long suspected he might have schizophrenia based on his paranoia and the fact that he was constantly making up nonsensical stories that he swore were true (could have just been a pathological liar). But he refused to help himself after I asked him many times to see a mental health doctor. He lived in a country with free healthcare, so money wasn’t the issue.
Sounds like the dude won the game of life.
the mentality your friend has is sadly not uncommon, and when pointing that out to some people they feel attacked and the need to retaliate.
I’m naturally lazy, but have to put effort to provide for my family. you have to give something to get something. Thats something unfortunately foreign to a lot of people who live on the internet.
Exactly, nice to see someone else has seen the truth. The Protestant Work Ethic is poison.