So, I’m not sure if this sounds strange, but my partner has, with increasing frequency, started talking and acting like she’s a kid–probably around 5.

She never did this when she first started dating. It wasn’t until about 6 months in that some early signs showed up, and now, a full year on, she’s in kid mode most of the time we’re together. Change of voice, intentionally mispronounced words, asking me for permission to do menial tasks, grabbing food off my fork as I’m trying to eat “because it tastes better when it comes from mine,” etc.

At first, I put it off as her being goofy, but as time went on, I’ve gotten more and more worn out with it. I feel like I’m taking on a parental role, rather than one of a romantic partner. It’s coloring my view of her and I don’t know what to do.

I’ve gently talked to her about it, mainly when she’s acting ‘normal’. Her explanations, when asked about her behavior are a mixture of “I’m not aware that I’ve been doing it” and “I enjoy it sometimes”.

That’s kind of a conflicting and hard to unpack explanation, you know? I don’t know if she’s dissociating or consciously doing it.

I love her so, so much, but I’m increasingly worried that the woman I started dating isn’t here most of the time.

How would you approach this? It’s clearly something intimate and sensitive to her, and I don’t want to hurt her feelings.

  • Number1SummerJam@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 year ago

    There’s been a weird trend on these platforms for a while where users talk in childlike voices. I sincerely believe that these short-form video platforms are not good for your brain at all.

    I suggest you avoid short-form video apps entirely. There is a correlation between reduced interest in learning/ADHD and Short form video formats 1 2 3. When you use sites like Lemmy and actively read, you are at least becoming a better reader and critical thinker. Short form video shows you fast-paced content tailored to you that’s designed to keep you addicted and entranced. From what I’ve seen firsthand, once people start using these platforms they have a hard time stopping.

    (Edit: my sources didn’t link when I quoted them. It’s in my comment history if you want to do some research) My SO is working on reading articles instead of videos like Tiktok. When I bring this up people tell me it’s a conspiracy (ironically it’s only the people that watch short-form video) so talking to your SO about it will be difficult. The best thing you can do is talk to your partner- that’s your number one tool for making relationships last.