Hey guys. After discussing with our lovely sysadmin @tedvdb@feddit.nl earlier, I thought it’s time we gathered to discuss our little community here. feddit.nl has been through some tough times, but it’s still up and strong! Let’s look into helping it solidify even more.
How have you been liking Lemmy so far? Would you like it if feddit.nl offered different interfaces like Photon and Voyager? Isn’t the trending communities bot really cool? ;)
Please feel free to let us know what we can do to help this instance thrive, and maybe tell us a little about your day, heh heh heh.
And of course, creating content, as well as sharing with others you know, goes a long way!
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I like feddit.nl but had some negative experiences with users on Lemmy when i posted some content myself. Unfortunately that has soured the experience for me quite a bit and since then i mainly lurk. I don’t take feddit for granted though, but I question whether lemmy is the place for me.
What kind of negative experiences did you have?
I was posting for the sake of sharing laughs but some power hungry mod wasn’t having it and was bending over backwards, flexing their power to make it stop and an example out of me. It wasn’t on feddit.nl but on another quite big and popular instance. Then i also had the occasional run ins with unmoving lemmitors who left quite shitty and uncalled for comments on my posts so i deleted it all and quit. Bleh.
Imo, if we want a big community we must treat each other with dignity and respect. Perhaps ask ourselves why someone posts something before leaving these quick and easy jabs, and also appreciate that people post to begin with (even if we may not necessarily like the posted thing). I’m pretty easy to demotivate with this kind of negativity and i bet I’m not the only one.
Just my two cents ¯_(ツ)_/¯
I completely agree with you. Dignity and respect is the basis of a strong community. In that sense having good mods is very important. They should help to ensure this (and of course, not make matters worse like in your case). Users should feel responsible as well, to not just downvote, but say something about it. Peer pressure usually is quite a good way to keep certain behaviours in check.
A while ago, I commented on a post with a meme about overweight people, which was disrespectful in my opinion. I said something about the role of eating disorders and societal pressure to lose weight in the development of obesity. So, of course, I was immediately called a fatty, etc by some people and downvoted. However, I was very happy to see that the mods removed these comments and left the ones that were respectful (whether they agreed or disagreed). After a while, I also got upvoted by as many people as had downvoted me. Whether I am being upvoted or downvoted does not matter that much to me personally, but it does say something about the apparent controversity of what I said. I think by good moderation, it was possible to handle this discussion respectfully, even though some people were not able to behave. So, it is a good example, I think.
I think that at Lemmy there are some similar issues with mods and people being disrespectful as we had with Reddit. However, by impression is that it is not as bad as with Reddit, where you seemed to have a lot more negative group behaviour. But maybe I just got lucky up until now. I think at any social platform like this, some people are going to misbehave. Some people just want to take out their agression and it is much easier to do so if you do not have to look the person you are hurting in the eye. So, the response to that is very important, I think.