likely in response to my comments on the beehaw post, which i linked to (hopefully im doing this right?). apparently, calling people you dont know for the first time “they/them” before being told their pronouns is “misgendering”. absurd. this kind of attitude threatens the larger LGBTQ community and is partially why cishets hate us after we won so much progress back in the 00s and 10s.
im a queer person. im neurodivergent. this shit is so goddamn fucking annoying, especially as an older queer who got physically assaulted on a near daily basis for being queer in the 90s. the kids today get their panties in a twist over being supposedly “misgendered” by someone calling them gender neutral pronouns before being corrected. narcissistic victimhood bullshit.
anyways, now banned from one of my favorite instances. meanwhile in the US theyre planning on hunting us. but yeah, lets ban fellow queers over their view that people who get mad about being “misgendered” when they arent (cis people are also referred to as “they/them” before further context in a conversation with a stranger) are just attention seeking brats that threaten the larger movement. its so obvious to me that the brats who find reason to be offended over innocent pronoun use never faced real adversity, like getting repeatedly physically beaten.
edit - the best part of all of this is i faced no moderation from beehaw and all of my comments are +1 or higher. power tripping oversensitive neurodivergent hating bastard of a mod over at blahaj IMO.
edit 2 - did this wrong. heres a link to the post i think got me banned from blahaj and a screenshot about it https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/37659465
Wow, feels so spiteful. It’s them not you.
To be charitable to the other side, perhaps this mod is so burned out on “just asking questions” that a sincere question has become hard to recognize 🤷♀️
i wasnt the original poster, i was just commenting. both me and OP are neurodivergent.
Ahh, thanks for the clarification
If that is the case then they shouldn’t be a moderator any more.
Everyone gets frustrated at their job, but it isn’t acceptable for a person to use the powers of their job for personal reasons. For example, I have access to financial software that handles tens of millions of dollars of client funds. I have the ability to lock an account and initiate a fraud investigation. However, if I chose to do that because a client was annoying and made me angry then I’d be quickly out of a job.
A moderator is responsible for ensuring a community is run well and they are given broad power to do so. Any moderator that uses those power to vent personal frustrations should not be trusted with those powers anymore.
And then there probably won’t be a community anymore.
Don’t compare someone doing a voluntary job to run a community for others to fucking illegally accessing someone’s financial information and harassing them with it. That it such a ridiculous comparison.
If you don’t like it, make your own community. It’s not hard to make but most will give up quickly. And if a mod on a trans instance is tired of trolls, I wouldn’t blame them as they’re some of the biggest targets for arseholes.
Expecting moderators to not abuse their powers for personal reasons will not result in the end of a community. That’s just nonsense.
For a random person, taking out your personal frustrations on random members of a community makes you an asshole.
Using moderator powers to take out your personal frustrations on random members of a community makes you unfit to be a moderator.
Your actions don’t suddenly become beyond reproach just because you clicked the “Create a community” button.
Doing a shit job at vetting is not the same as abusing powers for personal reason.
The person I was responding to was suggesting that maybe this happened because the moderator was frustrated with a type of trolling (sealioning) so they were unable to differentiate between the trolls and people asking legitimate questions.
If a person is so burned out on moderation that they are making kneejerk decisions resulting in legitimate users being banned then they shouldn’t be moderating.
Moderators are not the community, they’re volunteers who help maintain the community. But, as the cliche goes, with great power comes great responsibility.
If they’re unable to function as a moderator and are banning community members then they can be more damaging to a community than all of the trolls and bad faith commenters combined.
Moderators are not the kings of a community, they are the janitors. This isn’t an insult, I’m an Internet janitor myself. Just because you have the power to break things and, socially, hurt people doesn’t mean that it acceptable to do so arbitrarily.
How is banning someone who commented on a post on another instance not abusing one’s powers over personal grievance? And not even a convo about it? Just outright bans? What a joke.
The internet is so fucking hopeless. Being queer and neurodivergent is lonely enough, but not even on the internet are we welcome.
Not a troll and the post in question was not on their instance. Im queer too, and “they/them” is a perfectly acceptable pronoun to use when meeting someone for the first time.
It’s not misgendering, and this overprivileged whiny view is harmful to the queer community.