Ive watched videos and I always end up getting really overwealmed, its also cost. Like the thrift stores in my area arnt very decent, and you can’t try on anything anymore but I’m still on a budget. I kinda want to avoid shein, cause sizing was strange, and child labor. How stuff fits is also kinda hard since I don’t really have hips and given I started puberty at like 12 I doubt they will ever exist on my body. I have some basic fem T shirts and Jeans I need to wear a belt which ive gotten gendered correctly a few times while wearing.
As stupid this advice might seem it’s very true: girl moding is whatever you make it; If you wanna wear a shirt and jeans then go for it girl!
One thing that I found worked well was hair decorations. Like having a big pink flower in your head or something. And size matters, accessories can look out of place if they’re not comically large.
You might try an a-line dress! I got one on amazon for very cheap and it was the first thing that ever fit me in a way I was really happy with. They have measurement charts and as long as you are around the right numbers I think you’d find success.
It’s worth it to drive to a good thrift store. You can go a long way with occasional trips to some good thrift stores and some cheap local staples. Also, with the death of changing rooms, most thrift stores take returns for like a week. Keep the tags on and try things on in the comfort of your home. You’ll get the hang of what fits you how in time. And don’t doubt that you could one day have hips. I’m 34, on hrt for about a year, and just had to give most of my old shorts to Goodwill and buy new ones with different cuts because my hips and waist and ass have all become shapely. I got some fuckin cute shorts from the same Goodwill. I hope some slender hipped girl enjoys my old stuff.
Ah, maybe I need to loose weight to see them than, I currently weight 200 lbs
No you don’t. Friend, there are plus-sized cis women. Weight is not gender. Height is not gender.
I’m struggling, too, to find my style. My mom flat out said she won’t help me clothes shop. She keeps saying things about how I’m an adult and I should put my big girl panties on and I don’t need the support of my mother.
Sorry, inserted my own drama. But my point is, try. I got frustrated a few weeks ago cuz I went to goodwill and they have taken out their dressing rooms. There are other thrift stores tho. And if you are afraid of being recognized in your home town cuz you aren’t out publicly yet, go to a thrift store out of your town. Might be good anyways. It could help you be less self-conscious knowing you won’t have a possibility of seeing these people ever again.
I do have a question regarding this, if I fail to loose weight would HRT not be able to give me hips due to male fat distribution? also sorry I don’t mean to sound super depressive, I know it angers you.
Sky, it doesn’t anger me. I have genuine concern for you. I, myself have major depressive disorder, as do all three of my kids. My oldest is battling an addiction with cutting. Your depression touches me deeply, and I want to help you and I don’t know how.
Honestly, there are many more people much more knowledgeable than me, in this community. But, with what knowledge I do have, it should redistribute some fatty tissue, I think, regardless of weather or not you lose weight. It may take longer than you expect, or the changes may have been happening and you haven’t noticed.
I would almost recommend maybe recording your own timeline, but with your body image issues it may be difficult for you.
I deeply apologize for coming off as angry.
Thank you for your concern, I know ive struggled a ton, I have been working behind the scenes trying to surond myself with real life friends who support me. It is taking time but hopefully all works out well. I do struggle and I get that, its just hard sometimes expressly when I’m having a worse day.
