Also like this when it’s someone using wayyyy too many words to describe something they want done. Conversational blueballs when someone asks me, for (exaggerated) example, to take out the trash by saying “hey so you know we have these bins in our house that hold trash and that’s where we put all the trash and the trash eventually piles up and we have to do this weekly ritual where we take the trash and put it into bags and move it to the bins outside so that someone can come collect it and then we can put more trash in the bags so what I’m really trying to say is can you open the door and go grab the trash bins because that’s how you take out the trash right you just grab the trash and walk it outside and put it—“
PLEASE stop talking you could have just said “can you take the trash out?”
Or even worse when they ask “do you know this”, you say “yes”, and they tell it anyways with every little unnecessary detail, like you said “no I never heard of that please tell me everything about it”.
I mean, sometimes my wife has thrown something extra smelly in the garbage while cooking and wants me to take the quarter-full bag out so the house doesn’t reek.
I should absolutely be asked to take the trash out in that case, and she shouldn’t need a whole story for said request. She frequently does because that’s just her communication style. Lots of extras. Mucho frustrating for me.
But it’s probably just an example for illustration.
It was definitely just an example, but even if it wasn’t, my point was not about the chore, it was about the rambling. I seem to encounter lots of people who just have hard times getting to the damn point.
There are two people I regularly talk to who will basically explain how to do something before asking me to do it, no matter what it is, and it’s infuriating. It’s not that I don’t know how to do it either, it’s like wanting me to get them a water bottle or helping them lift something turns into a labyrinthine explanation or justification.
A real example is: “Could you do me a favor? Can you walk over to the refrigerator, open the door, and grab a water bottle and get it for me?” vs. “Can you get me a water bottle?”
Or another one recently: “So it’s Friday, and you know I just think it would be nice if you could call X, like just open your phone and dial their number, and once they pick up, if you could just real quick ask them if when they get home if they would be willing to eat Chinese food?” vs. “Would you call X and ask if they want Chinese food for dinner?”
Also like this when it’s someone using wayyyy too many words to describe something they want done. Conversational blueballs when someone asks me, for (exaggerated) example, to take out the trash by saying “hey so you know we have these bins in our house that hold trash and that’s where we put all the trash and the trash eventually piles up and we have to do this weekly ritual where we take the trash and put it into bags and move it to the bins outside so that someone can come collect it and then we can put more trash in the bags so what I’m really trying to say is can you open the door and go grab the trash bins because that’s how you take out the trash right you just grab the trash and walk it outside and put it—“
PLEASE stop talking you could have just said “can you take the trash out?”
Yeah, that’s what I hate the most I guess.
Or even worse when they ask “do you know this”, you say “yes”, and they tell it anyways with every little unnecessary detail, like you said “no I never heard of that please tell me everything about it”.
There are some things we shouldn’t have to be told to do. Shared chores are one of them.
Not sure how true your example is, but that’s what the example sounded like it was about.
I mean, sometimes my wife has thrown something extra smelly in the garbage while cooking and wants me to take the quarter-full bag out so the house doesn’t reek.
I should absolutely be asked to take the trash out in that case, and she shouldn’t need a whole story for said request. She frequently does because that’s just her communication style. Lots of extras. Mucho frustrating for me.
But it’s probably just an example for illustration.
It was definitely just an example, but even if it wasn’t, my point was not about the chore, it was about the rambling. I seem to encounter lots of people who just have hard times getting to the damn point.
There are two people I regularly talk to who will basically explain how to do something before asking me to do it, no matter what it is, and it’s infuriating. It’s not that I don’t know how to do it either, it’s like wanting me to get them a water bottle or helping them lift something turns into a labyrinthine explanation or justification.
A real example is: “Could you do me a favor? Can you walk over to the refrigerator, open the door, and grab a water bottle and get it for me?” vs. “Can you get me a water bottle?”
Or another one recently: “So it’s Friday, and you know I just think it would be nice if you could call X, like just open your phone and dial their number, and once they pick up, if you could just real quick ask them if when they get home if they would be willing to eat Chinese food?” vs. “Would you call X and ask if they want Chinese food for dinner?”