• MaungaHikoi@lemmy.nz
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    1 year ago

    “Someone who doesn’t want to be 100% a man or 100% a woman. Imagine gender wasn’t a single choice, but a slider from 100% fem to 100% masc, and you could pick where it sat each day.”

    I’m missing stuff but that’s how I would explain it to my nana.

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      1 year ago

      ok wait, i know what nb is but think somethings going over my head here haha. i’m just a bit confused- can you just elaborate on what you mean by “you could pick where it sat each day”? or is that just meant to be part of it being a simplified version of nb?

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        1 year ago

        I had a non-binary friend who wasn’t just a tomboy or a fem guy, they had a bit of a cycle back and forth between being full guy mode and full girl mode over the course of six months. I don’t personally identify as NB but I also have a tendency to lean in and out of my masc side over time.

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          1 year ago

          okay, i think i see what you mean. i have a similar internal pendulum of femininity and androgyny despite being cis, so i can relate. your wording of “picking” is what threw me off, since it sounded like you mean that nb people pick their gender lol, but i understand that you meant that with presentation now instead, which i agree with.

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      1 year ago

      Is there a way to mix in the old concept of Tomboy into the conversation since that’s something older folks would maybe understand?

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        1 year ago

        This popped in my head the other day when I was randomly thinking about how non-binary identities have existed since before everyone called it that.