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Cake day: July 17th, 2023

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  • I’ve been in one car accident in my life (my fault) and it shook me up, I remember searching “how long until self driving cars.” But I got over it, next day I was back behind the wheel. As other people have said, it’s a necessary life skill for most people in North America and it does get much easier with experience and time.

    Edit: one thing that helped me is to identify what I did wrong and how i could avoid it happening again. I have a motto of sorts, “never make the same mistake twice.” You can apply that to close calls as well. In your case, you say you struggle with multitasking, but that isn’t something that is out of your control. Especially while you’re still a beginner, avoid listening to music (and DEFINITELY keep your phone down) and keep your eyes on the road. And if you’re driving with other people, they will be totally cool with you telling them, “sorry I can’t talk, I need to focus on driving.” As time goes on driving will get much easier and you can probably allow for some (limited) distractions like music, etc


  • I get that in a perfect society you shouldn’t need to learn to drive, but that ignores the fact that if you want to be able to function in society most people in NA need to be able to drive (unless you live in one of the handful of cities with excellent mass transit). It’s a bit like saying nobody should be forced to work for a living and then being homeless.









  • Yes, I am not trying to downplay the seriousness of any physical violence, or ignore the fact police officers are more likely to be domestic abusers. However, the post title does say “beat their spouses” which to me implies, at the very least, the intent to harm and actually inflicting physical harm, neither of which are implied in physical violence.


  • That isn’t really true.

    https://www.yahoo.com/news/fact-check-posts-claiming-40-110000305.html?guccounter=1

    The Neidig study stated in its abstract, “Survey results revealed that approximately 40 percent of the participating officers reported marital conflicts involving physical aggression during the previous year.” However, that “physical aggression” included violence perpetrated by the officers’ spouses. The results for violence perpetrated in the relationship in general was 41% for male officers and 40% for female officers. Importantly, Neidig’s results for violence specifically perpetrated by the officers against their spouses were much lower: 28% for male and 27% for female.

    So 28% is the number, really, and “physical violence” is not necessarily the same thing as “beating their spouse.” That could mean shoving them, or pulling their arm or something. One criticism of the original study is how vaguely it defines “physical violence”.

    I know I will be labeled as a bootlicker, and I swear I’m not, I just don’t like misinformation and on lemmy all the misinformation is leftist. On PCM on reddit I spend my time calling out conservative BS.