• jarfil@beehaw.org
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      10 months ago

      Don’t dismiss the PUA too quickly. There is a lot of BS in the PUA scene, but also some basic considerations that men don’t get taught in any other way.

      The traditional view used to be: men watch porn, women read romance.

      That’s not a constructive way to get anywhere, and arguably has been making things worse with the wider availability of more violent and objectifying porn.

      Under a general veneer of “getting laid”, the PUA also teach stuff like:

      • Don’t be the creepy stalker
      • Have some empathy
      • Treat your partner like a human being, not just a sex object
      • …ok, so maybe that’s it.

      May not sound like much, but it’s still a step above the “take, use, leave” that gets taught otherwise.